I was beating myself up brutally earlier as my reflection depresses me. The asshole ex fucked my head up today too. Makes me look like the villain once again. He doesnt like me either, said again he hates me. I looked at some sites that might help me improve myself physically and thus mentally. I keep saying I will go to the gym Im wasted money on but never do. I hope hope hope to write tommorrow and say that I got over my apprehension and actually went. I want to be ableto write that Sat. nite. I think I decided that I will let my hair grow about 2 0r 3 more inches and finally let it go. Donation to "locks of love" of course. It will be a good gesture and perhaps spiritually and soulfully releasing to me. Like Lenny Kravits said when he parted with his dreads years ago, you carry alot of energy around in that hair. He felt his energy change as he changed his look after all those years. I dont plan to go much shorter, though ,Im not trying to change my friggin identity just flatter my style in any way possible. Wish I knew who I really was that would make it alot easier. Instead of being so confused all the time. Im tired of myself right now but it will be ok, I hope.
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My reflection depresses me too. I look in the mirror and wonder when all this happened to me. I look so worn down, battered and broken. I think your ex keeps telling you negative stuff because he is hurting. Just let it go in one ear and out the other. I know that\'s easier said than done but let it go. I think the hair idea is a good one. You could think of it this way. When you get your hair cut you are releasing all the negative. Try something new - ya never know - in the process you may just see a reflection ya like! Everything will work out - have faith! big hugs for you! Robin;0)
It is not what he is telling you.
It is what you are telling yourself.
You need to clean up your inner dialogue. Girl, you are young and beautiful. I saw his picture...he isn\'t all that. Why are you talking down to yourself? Since someone else did..... then you have the right to pick on yourself too? Bullshit!
You are your own best friend. You better start looking at the bright side of your package.
#1 You are young and beautiful
#2 Your soul is so pure and loving that your good looks shouldn\'t matter so much.
#3......(ya get the picture?)