Do you think i should have our baby Hi my names kayle im 21 and i just found out i am pregnent. When I was 17 i fell pregenent with my boyfriend of 2 years it was a very upsetting time for me because my boyfriend at the time told me if i didnt abort he would want nothing to do with me and our child. I was living in cornwall at the time and had no family or friends around me. I thought that he was the love of my life and ended up givin in to him and aborting our baby. About a month later we both moved back home with our perants and he split up with me. After that relationship ended i started a new one with a guy while livin in england age 19 we had sex without contriception for over a year and i never fell pregnant so i thought that i had messed my body up due to the abortion. I knew from square one that i didnt really love him and i guess i was going out with him for security because he was so much of a nice guy i felt like he would never leave me. In the end i knew that i couldnt carry on living a lie and had to finish the relationship. we are still friends and i care about him alot. In april this year i started going out with my currant boyfriend simon. when we met we had so much in common everything i said he seemed to finnish i never thought that i would ever feel the way i did with him. We both agreed that we are sole mates. i have only been back home about 2 weeks out of the time i have known him and spent all the rest of the time with him. ON WED 25TH JULY 2007 I found out that i was approx 5 weeks preg. when the nurse told me i couldnt stop smilein years of worryin that i could not have kids was finally over. Then it struck me that i was going to have to tell simon that i am pregnant. when he got home from work i told him as soon as he came in the living room he did not look happy. He said to me that we had only been together for a few weeks and that it was a bad decission to bring a child into the world so soon of knowin each other. I started to cry and told him that i could not go throw another abortion again. simon went quiet and after a few hours acted normal towards me. we went to bed as normal and the next day wen he came home from work said that he had been thinkin about it all day. he said he wasnt ready to have a baby at 28, we had not known each other long enough to know if we wanna be together, he did not want to be a part time dad and he didnt want his perants to only see there granchild every now and then ....he also said that if we had been together for 10 months or longer he would be really happy and doing cart wheels. I couldnt stop cryin cause he kept on shoutin i told him i needed to go home and think about what i want. i phoned my mother and asked her to pick me up. my mum said no matter what happens she will be behind me 100% .ON monday i went to the docs and spoke to him about everything. it was kinda like talking to a brick wall. i got folic acid given to me off him and decided that i really want to keep this baby. on tues 7th aug i came back to simons house and we havent spoken about the pregnancy what so ever. today the 11th i got a call off my mum saying the midwife needs to make arragments to speak to me. i have been avoiding speaking to simon about my decision and thought i better had say somthing other wise its just going to get worse. he is now out with one of his friends so i tx him to say ...i need to make arragements for a ultrasound are you going to come with me.. he said ....u keepin it en?! i said ....i wanted to tell you but i was frightend about how u were going to react....he said omg! i want you! but cant we sort it and see where we get 1st its called being sensable. I said things are not going to go back the way they were if i did abort cause i would resent the fact you made me do it im trying to be trufull to you simon i want this to work i dont want to pressure you into anything but i need to know if you want me to be down this way with you because i need to sort out the hospital midwife and accomidation...he said i cant haddle this please? i cant look after my self. I want to know do you ppl think i am being unfair and should abort or do you think i should stick to my guns and have our baby
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I AM ONE WHO IS TOTALLY AGAINIST ABORTION...IF HE DOESNT WANT THE BABY OH WELL HE SHOULD OF THOUGHT OF THE CONSEQUENCES OF HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX....I THINK YOU SHOULD KEEP THE BABY AND IF HE LOVES AND CARES FOR YOU HE WILL STICK AROUND....THINGS WILL GET BETTER JUST STICK TO YOUR GUNS..LET THIS INNOCENT LIFE BE ABLE TO HAVE A CHANCE AND HAVE A LIFE...MUCH LOVE JENNIFER
I really think that a baby is such a miracle. If God put that baby into your life, it is for a reason and he will show you that reason. You\'ve just gotta trust. I\'m not trying to sound pushy but I really believe this stuff. I am 11 weeks pregnant and it is no cakewalk, but after trying to have a child and thinking I couldn\'t for 19 years, I\'m having one too. Just when I stopped making the plans, someone else took over who is much greater than me. I\'m scared to death but I try to have to have faith and not fear. Sounds like you have a super Mom. It will be great when you have a chance to give that love back to someone else. Many blessings! Let me know how it goes! Carolyn
have your baby. i know how it is and does to you when u lose one the guilt. so just try and make it work. if anything result to adoption. just let the baby live. sometimes i lie awake wishing mine did. he will change his mind when he sees his/her face.
don\'t forget this is your baby don\'t let him tell you to do something that you don\'t want to do you have gone through the pain of abortion when you didn\'t want to already don\'t make the same mistake again. Go through with the pregnancy, love your baby and give it the best life tht you can!!! i\'m 16 and pregnant and i love this baby already to bits and i am only 16weeks!!!! it is an awesome feeling. Do what you want to do not what he wants you to do alright
I sent you a message. Keep the baby, honey. No doubt about it.
Please do what you feel right about. Don\'t make your decisions based on his reactions. No matter what you decide, you are the one that has to live with that decision, so make youself comfortable with what you choose first.
To be totally honest my boyfriend of 2 years was stunned when I told him I was pregnant... I stuck to my guns and told him I was keeping the baby and it was his choice whether or not he was a part time father or not because I was going to be a full time mother. He came around eventually just give it time.
Ive been there, twice too! I got caught pregnant 3 yrs ago by my ex, who was very selfish but i adored him he talked me out of keeping it but i was devastated and cried and cried, because of all the upset i lost my baby, we split up and i went of the rails for abit, going out loads, and getting very drunk. We got back together about a year ago and although we were pretty carefull i got caught 5mths ago! With us being older, and more settled i thought it would be okay, but he was like a broken record saying the same crap again! so i shut down, fortunetly we both have seperate houses, i blocked him out, AND!! I am now 5mths pregnant to a little boy, and my ex is gutted, he rings and texts but, im past that now, when i needed support he wasnt there so, I\'m gonna let him sweat, my little man, when born will be all the man i need! ( well at least till i get my figure back, and go find a nice man this time, i am so over bad boys, they bore me now!)
I know that you have never talked to me before, but I am a mother of a 4 yr old son and my daughter passed away at 5weeks old in January. Children are a blessing, God has given you this child for a reason. I lost my child not by my choice but think about what you want. Think about all the people in this world that want a baby but cant have one. Do not have a abortion. You have already had one, dont kill another innocent baby. It makes me sick to my stomach just to think about people doing that crap just b/c they dont want to grow up and take responsibility. Do what you want and that is to keep the baby. Tell that boy to take a hike if he dont like it.