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On line dating has been making me feel empty. I am spending all the energy I have in this. I have distanced myself from my friends and my part time job. The women I meet are boring to me. I cant carry an intelligent conversation with them. I should spend more time and energy at the university where I work. I dont know where to start since I have disconnected myself from almost everyone due to my cfs. I really dont know where to start to begin creating a social life at the university and hope to be able to keep it going with my limited energy. But I have more energy now. Its just being used almost entirely for on line dating. It makes me feel lonely. I have difficulty going to sleep because I feel so lonely. And that insomnia is making me very tired. There is a general feeling of emptiness in my life. When I was less healthy I had a more fulfilling life. I meditated and felt at peace. Now everything revolves around on line dating. I have to change my life. I need new friends, more intelligent friends at the university. I need to be with people who are more like me. The people I meet on line are a lot less educated than I am. So I get bored. And feel empty. And I cant sleep!!!
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Hello friend! I think you are obsessing over this dating thing to where it\'s taking all the joy from your life! There is someone for everyone.
I\'m sure there are many ways you can socialize at the university. Many ways!! It seems that you may be holding people up to a standard that YOU want met, education wise, and intellect wise. If you are too picky and choosey, no one is going to meet your needs.
Gabriel, you have to relax about this. Enjoy the university and what it has to offer. If you keep chasing down online dating and spending all your free time on the computer, you are missing out on the cup of coffee you could be having with another friend, male or female that is right close by you, and that would keep the lonliness at bay till someone comes along.
Try to ease up on yourself. I\'m sure you\'re a kind, lovely person, just one who is pushing to hard for nature to take it\'s course.
Easy does it, my friend!
Hey Gabriel the fact that you have more energy is fantastic.It means you can change your life, just may be at a slightly slower pace.If the online dating is becoming a pressure then drop it for a while, you can go back to it anytime.If the meditation was helping when you were sick , then go back to it . That\'s a constructive thing to do at all times.As far as people go, we have to appreciate positive things in others.They may not be on a high academic level as you were saying but can still have valuable qualities and insight to share with you . Don\'t restrict yourself too much.Variety is the spice of life. Take care, love Di