Today is looking good already! My mom lives on our property in a trailer and she just bought a new one and it was delivered yesterday. You have to know my mom, to know she sure can put you under alot of stress... Well, of course not everything goes smooth, and her refridge did not work, so I have to do the calling and find out whats wrong.. Well, this morning she got up, and wow it is working yeahhh...Today, hubby and I will run over to my sisters house,as I bring her, and her boyfriend meals 3 to 4 times a week,as she has alzheimers, and her boyfriend is now beginning to have troubles.I have 2 care givers for her, and they take her out 5 days a week. They are angels, and have been a blessing for me. Her boyfriends son, is going to move in so he can help his dad,as well as make sure my sister takes her breathing treatments, and when he does, well this is another big major help for me. My husband will begin a new treatment for his cancer and after reading the booklet, I find it scares the heck out of me. It says, this is not for anyone with any sort of heart trouble, and hubby has had a major hear attact, and now here I go again,,,worrying!!! When the doctor calls to tell us hubby is scheduled for his first IV round, I will be sure to talk to him about this side effect..
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Today my feet are very swollem... My dog accidently scratched me 3 weeks ago today and for such a little scratch,well it sure has caused me alot of trouble. I have trouble with diabities, and swollen feet as it is, but now with this, well it is double trouble.. I see my doctor on Tuesday about this foot being so swollen and red...really painful when I try to walk. I have a mobility scooter, but it is just too hot to ride it right now.. Have to wait til cooler weather to be able to get out on my own and go to the mall... had my mother over afew times with little problems she has had with her new trailer, and come to find out, all was an easy fix..thank goodness, as sometimes I feel she is a real pain.. She is one of these who sees bad all the time, and complains alot...she lives on our property, so I see her often. Matter of fact, not only is MY mom on our property,but also my mother-in law.. But she is a gem!!! Between my mom, and my sister with alzheimers, and my hubby with cancer, I sometimes want to scream!! pull out my hair, and run as far as I can run...but know it would not do any good, so need to deal better with all of this.. Ihave ashtma, and diabities, and sometimes fall short of helping others the way I used to.. Especially family members..Sometimes I feel that I am torn on what to do first...and sometimes I am short of patience...I get no help whatsoever from my mom in the help with my sister...this frustrates me alot...yet when she wants help from us, we are right there for her. Right now we have alot of health issues on our plate, and a little help from my own mom would be a blessing..But no dice on her part. Hubby is my shoulder to lean on, and with his health, I should be able to handle more on my own.. He does all the driving,because I am scared to death to drive in our big city..Sometimes I feel guilty that I do not drive, and take off this pressure from hubby. Right now, he is able to still drive, and run around abit, and I feel like I take advantage of this, and I do not want to feel this way...but I know there is NOONE else who can help my sister.. People tell me to put her in a home, and this I do not want to do, as she is still able to know her home, and is comfortable there. She laughs alot and even tho she is unable to carry on a decent conversation, I feel like I have to be there for her..I have to know she is okay, and I wish I could sit back and just say, that her care giver help her 5 days a week and this is good enough, but find myself wanting to know just what they do and how my sis was, so find myself calling the care givers and asking them how the day went, and how my sis was.. Then I call my sis, and have her tell me how she thought the day went,even tho, she does not always remember..Things will work out,as they always do..just seems like eveything happens the same time, and feel I can only stretch so far..
God love ya, you have soooo much going on right now. I would definately talk to the dr about that treatment before they do it. I think I would call the dr before he calls you. I would want to know everything there is to know. And it never hurts to get a second opinion about it either. Im sorry that your having such a hard time with your mom. It would help you out alot if she would help some. But I am so thankful for the help that you are getting. You are only one person and you cant be everywhere at once. You are already taking care of so many. You need to make sure you take some time for just you time. I dont blame you for calling your dr. about those scratches on your foot. The dr really does need to look at that. Even tho you have alot going on, you sound like you have got things pretty well under control. I admire you tremendously.
Take care and Im sending you hugs in your direction....Julie
First off, I\'m giving you a big hug -- you need one! You do have a lot on your plate, and I know what it means to get every bit of help you can get. Bless your heart, taking on so much - I know it\'s just what we do in times like these, because we need to; because our loved ones need us.
My husband feels a bit guilty, as you say you do, as he can no longer drive due to vision problems after his stroke in 2003. I do all the driving, and don\'t mind a bit - I\'m sure your husband is the same way, so try not to feel guilty about it.
As indygal wisely advised, please be sure to take time to take care of YOU, as well. I know we all tend to put our own needs & necessities on the back burner, while looking after others, but you are so important as well!
Keep me posted, Phyllis...I wish you every good wish.
-Lori
First off I want to thank Julie and Lori for their well wishes. This gives me strength, and it gives me encouragement.. How wonderful that strangers are there for ya. We wont be strangers long as I intend to come on this site often. It is people like you two that makes life worth living,and makes you want to go on. Just a kind word, encourages more strenghth in me and I want to again say thank you..
God Bless You. You sure do have your hands full. I hadn\'t read your journal before i sent my other message. You are only one person and you are doing all you can do so don\'t feel guilty about anything and do take care of yourself. You have a lot of people relying on you. I would like to keep in touch with you.