This is the letter i wrote to Kandis and I need your opinion on whether or not I should send it as is or if I should say something else. Kandis,  I'm really glad I was able to find you and want to renew our friendship if you wnat to also.  I do think , however, that we need to clear the air of any past misunderstandings there may be.  Back in 97 and 98 I was very ill and in crisis.  During that time you became distant and pulled away from me.  We talked about it briefly at the time , that I wasn't there for you.  I recognized that and apologized but I was too ill to change my behavior.  I am sorry for not being able to be there for you during that time and ask your forgiveness and understanding.   This is what I'm going to send unless I'm told I should change it somehow.  I feel like I should apologize because she apparently was hurt by my behavior and even though I was sick I do wish I could have been there for her.  If anyone has any ideas or thinks I should change it will you please give me your opinions?  Thanks.  I'll write more tonight probably.  I'm very busy today running errands and taking Mimi to the dr and the dentist.  Have a good day.   Becky