Finally getting back to the journal.  What a day!!!  Mom called and said she isn't going to take her meds any more. She thinks the shortness of breath she is having is due to one or more of them and that only her vitamins & herbs will help. For crying out loud - the woman has CHF, is 92 years old and many other health problems that could account for shortness of breath.  I cannot get through to her!!!  I suggested that she go to a facility that will help regulate her medications and, maybe then she will get some strength and energy after the figure out "which one" is causing the problem.  If it holds out, she has agreed.  But we all expect her to change her mind.  I simply don't know what to do anymore.  If she doesn't take her pills, it is a certain death sentence.  If she is truly alergic to one of them, that is a death sentence too.  The only calm I have is that she has taken all of these medications for well over 2 years without alergic reactions.  Please God, help us!We have all this and 2 family members preparing for deployment over the next 4-5 months.  I think I'm going crazy about now.  Anyone out there want to change lives with me???

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Not I!
Not that this will make you feel any better, but my mom just turned 90 and about once a month she decides she no longer needs her pills. She doesn\'t get away with it, but, you know, it has sometimes occurred to me that when people make it this far, demented (my mother has what I call \"Dementia-Lite\") or not, they think they are invincible. I\'ve thought, for years, that my mother has yet to face her own mortality, and that this might have something to do with why she\'s still here. It\'s not the only reason, certainly my close monitoring of her life has some to do with it, too, but I think her lack of acceptance of her own mortality is a factor. I\'ll bet it is with your mother, too...and, unfortunately, it\'s also what makes her think she doesn\'t need her medications! It\'s a vicious circle, and from the outside looking in it appears deadly, but, I don\'t know, sometimes I\'m not so sure...
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The photos, by the way, remind me of one of my MIL\'s and his grandkids...they just LOVE getting on his mobile farm equipment with him, and he loves it, too! Just precious!
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Oh how I know this feeling. All I can say is hang in there. She probably will change her mind. Have her meds checked though. I remember this happening to one of my patients, he said every time I take this pill(not sure now what it was) I have a hard time breathing. Doctor took him off it, he was fine. In his case it was something with the meds. May not be with your mom if she has been on the same meds for a long time. It might though put her at ease some. Why is it that parents never take the words of the children? They seem to think its better from someone else. Well I don\'t think you would want my life either so I\'ll let you keep yours...LOL. Take care and I am always here for you.

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Debbie