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My ex is living the life I had earned with the internet lover he married, so feeling cheated out of a life that I put 20years into all of the trials, abuse, and living through his college years. We were making 80,000 a year and when he left my income went to 13,000 which was hard for the kids to adjust to. He left us with 40.00 for the month leaving me with the house payments and utility bills while he provided his "new family" with a Christmas that was thousands of dollars. He now goes on cruses and trips to Disneyland. So the life I spent living through the divorce was also taken from the kids. Let's see...something good about him....hummmm....he liked our first daughter, but laid her out in a bikini like a playgirl. Lost the pic though. He would come home and ask her how her day was putting his arm around her. He would also take her to buy bras and panties. When we went shopping I had to get his approval to put something in the cart. I was Never allowed to touch the checkbook or know where the money was going...after we separated and before he picked up his computer I had a friend hack into it and it was full of porn. all of the correspondence from his 7 internet lovers. The kids finally came forward and showed me the 83 discs that he had full of porn that was easily used by the kids..I am sure if I can think of more I would share but more and most of it was the abuse and how sick he was with the porn.
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Nice guy.
I know that court is very traumatic for you. You can apply for a spousal support revision, having him indicate his financial resources, income, income tax forms for the past 5 years and so on. I am sure that you are entitled to much more than you are currently getting. Also, if his new wife works, that counts into the formula as well! You may want to reconsider when you have the strength to do this? Hugs, Neesie.
Be glad he\'s not your problem but someone\'s elses.