Well nothing in my life ever happens gradually, it always is like having a bomb go off in your lap. I have a great marriage and a great son and went back to work about four months ago. Thought life was together and then now I have a mass and the two docs feel strongly it is cancer. Man talk about stinky. I just got back from a conference I had to attend for work. My boss and I were around each other the whole time, she about drove me crazy. Well I guess I am done whining now.