Thanks for the advice Jackie.  Unfortunately, ALL of Tyler's friends live on the other side of the city.  We've lived in the same house for 30 years and will probably live here many more.  The taxes are much cheaper in this area - we're in sort of a suburb - just outside the city on the north side.  The bad part is that the schools are not good.  So, we're sending Tyler to a parochial school - it's a city-wide parochial school, but most of the students are from the south side, which is the wealthier area.  There are no boys his age in our neighborhood, and all of his friends live on the other side of the city.  I do understand that it's summer and he doesn't want to sit all alone all day long every day - he needs to spend time with his friends, and I usually don't mind taking him, just right at that moment I could not.  After I wrote in my journal, we sat down and talked, and I think it's worked out now.  He was just being unreasonable at the time - probably because he had been telling his friend that he would come over as soon as I got home, and the boy had been calling every half-hour asking when he was coming.  Then, when I said he'd have to wait another half-hour, he was upset and disappointed.  But, I thought he was being disrespectful and I told him so, and we came to an understanding.This weekend we're going to a water park hotel with my daughter, son-in-law, and granddaughter.  It's a birthday celebration for Anika, who will be six.  Tyler's mother is meeting us there and taking him for a week.  I have mixed feelings about it.  I know he wants to spend time with her, but I do not approve of her lifestyle and what she does for a living.  He does not know what she does and I hope it stays that way.  She would not be abusive or negligent and she does not use drugs or anything, so it's not that he would not be safe.  If I thought that was the case, I would not let him go with her.  We have legal guardianship of him and to recind it, she would have to take us to court.  She has an outstanding warrant in our state, so she could not do that - if she tried to take us to court, she would be arrested on the outstanding warrant.  Really, I'm surprised that she doesn't just take care of that - it was from when she was only 17 years old and did something stupid, and all she would need to do is to pay a few dollars restitution and it would be taken care of.  But, it's probably good for us if she doesn't because then she can't try to take Tyler back. I think that she always thought that he would some day come to live with her.  Now, he's 14 and happy and I think she's upset that things are not working out that way.  She made the best decision for him when she left him with us.  She was not able to take care of him and his life would have been awful if she had taken him.  I know it must be hard for her, but he has a good life, a great school, terrific friends, he does well in school and is outstanding in sports.  He is very poplular, well adjusted, and everyone loves him.  She is realizing that he is not going to come live with her ever, and that must be a hard dream to give up, but he is happy with things as they are.