This is our fourteenth month trying to conceive. I used to think you just had to have sex without birth control. Isn't that funny? Now I'm pretty convinced that anyone who says you can get pregnant just by sleeping with someone is lying. Or misinformed. I'm having a hard time keeping my wits about me, definitely having a hard time hearing about every single pregnant female on the planet. I just want a baby. I don't know any more than that. I feel broken and hopeless.Our choices are either to start working on the various things that are wrong with us: blocked tubes, low and malformed sperm, or to just jump ahead to IVF. I'm torn. If there were an easy, effective answer, that's what I'd want to do. Now I just don't know what to do. My husband keeps trying to be reasonable, but he doesn't have the same burning panic that I do. I'm that dreaded age: 35, when everything gets harder. I'm just terrified that I'm never going to be pregnant.
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O.K. ....gave you a hug, now I\'m reading your journal, which is answering some of my questions. Sorry about the backwards order of things. It\'s a tough choice to decide what to do, isn\'t it? Like you said, if you just KNEW what the best way would be, well, then it would be easy to decide. I know it\'s easy for me to say, and harder to convinve yourself, but here goes...I am an OB nurse. I work in an area of educated, professional women. Women over 35, 36, and even 37 have babies ALL the time at my hospital. We RARELY even see people in their 20\'s anymore. True, we do have a decent amount of IVF, but SOOOO many women, including my fellow nurses and doctors are having happy, healthy babies even into their 40\'s. Don\'t know if that helps, but sometimes our own time constraints just get us even more tense than we would be with everything else going on.
Wow -- an OB nurse. As you fight your own battles your job must be inspiring but also like rubbing salt in a wound. Thank you so much for this encouragement. I know it\'s possible, but I wish it could be easier!
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I jumped right to IVF. My tubes and ovaries are messed up from Endometriosis. Yep its hard. Im almost there , having my eggs retrieved next week. So so scared.Im only 29 but that is so old these days.
Hi! I know what you mean about the whole pregancy thing! I am right there with you. I always thought i\'d get preg right away and soon found out that unless we do IVF, the likelyhood of conceiving naturally won\'t happen for us. There are many things to take into consideration when making decisions such as these, but like the OB nurse said, many are having healthy pregs in their later 30\'s even 40. I am 33 and will soon be starting my meds to prepare for retrieval. Good luck!