confused

I am so confused,me and kids came down to MS,It was the 1st anniversary of Pat's death,well my dad (81) tells me he will get me tires for my thunderbird(97) as thy were badly needed,he does and goodyear calls him and says the manifold is messed up,but the car is still ok,may get bad gas mileage (its a 8 cylinder) I tell the guy at goodyear to just put the tires on ,that I am not having my dad pay 1200 for a car that is old and probably only worth 1200.So they do and we pick it up,my mom starts in on how I need a new car,we decided to go look,suppose to be just to look,turns into us buying a new program car with 18000 miles on it,a chevy malibu,white,very nice car and payments of 383 a month,I am going to be responsible for most all the payments,I have no job,I can pay it because I have no house pmt,but leaves very little to live on,I have to get a job no matter what,Christmas is coming soon,trailer needs alot of stuff,I simply have to get something,the other thing is,I truly believe that my mother is in the early stages of Alzheimers,she can't remember anything and can barely walk,dad is 81,in pretty good shape,but I am the only child,itwill fall on me to help but I live 550 miles away in TN,there are no jobs in MS in the area that I feel is home to me (greenville) and I hate Jackson where my parents live with a passion,not to mention it's a dangerous place,my parents love it and refuse to leave.also the car that dad is helping me get is totally in their names,they have excellent credit,mine is in the toliet and the fact I have no job doesn't help.that means the car is legally theirs,they are going to add me to their insurance,which means I can drive it,but when I get it home to TN there will be problems because the tag has to be MS since that's where they live,and Tn will not like that idea.I have alot of signs telling me to go ahead and sell the trailer and move back to MS,I just hate this,I love TN but I love my family too,me and the kids are confused on what to do,everything is such a mess,I really don't know what difference it makes on where  I live I am miserable without my Pat,it's just in TN where I live I can escape reality for awhile,in MS the reality hits hard.

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Mary, so many decisions to make. I agree with Marti in taking your time and make a list of the pro\'s and con\'s. In the end you will know what is right for you and your family. Pat with will with you no matter where you are. Wishing you luck with whatever it is that you decide to do......hugs