friend....
last night i was out with a group of people at a restaurant and i was sitting next to my friend and i mentioned i was anxious and she asked why and i told her that my 4 year anniversary was coming up and her response made me mad...she said,"don't think about it...it's been 4 years....think of something happy...don't think about it..." okay, how can i NOT think about it???? what is a happy part od being raped?? something must be wrong with me, because i don't see a happy part of rape.....it just kinda made me mad
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I\'m sorry your friend reacted that way. Some people just don\'t get it.
ive noticed people who haven\'t been in the situation dont know how to react. or they say (and this is my favorite), \"well i would have fought back.\" which implies that a)you didnt try, b)that they are superior for thinking that, c)that you shouldn\'t worry about it. i\'m sorry that its a hard time for you right now. everyday is a little better but we never forget
a lot of people have no idea how to react in a helpful way, even if they mean well. I\'ve seen well meaning people hurt a lot of people\'s feelings by being insensitive like your friend was. I\'m sorry you had to go through that with your friend.
Heh, I have been told that one quite a few times. Not like the anniversaries aren\'t hard enough anyways.... *gentle hugs if okay*. Nothing is wrong with you. There. There is no happy part, nor is there anything about it that we can just \"Forget about\"