Hi sweetheart whatever is going on is only temporary , IT WILL PASS. WE LOVE YOU . TAKE DEEP BREATHES IN AND SLOWLY EXHALE. KEEP HOLDING ON CUZ THINGS ARE ALWAYS CHANGING AND YOU NEVER KNOW WHATS RIGHT AROUND THE BEND FOR YOU.SOMETIMES WE JUST NEED TO SLOW DOWN AND GET A NEW PERSPECTIVE IDK WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS BUT KNOW YOU ARE SO VERY MUCH LOVED AND ALTHOUGH WE DONT TALK OFTEN IM STILL YOUR FRIEND. SO JUST HOLLAR IF I CAN BE OF ANY HELP. JUST KNOW IT WILL BE OKAY AND FEELINGS DONT ALWAYS EQUATE REALITY. YES YOU MAY NEED TIME OUT BUT YOU ARE NOT ALONE. GOD LOVES YOU AND SO DO I. HUGS , YOUR FRIEND LESLIE
I have ks telling me everyday , that I should just pack my things up and leave her,tre living here. she complains, every day, mum there\'s a speck of dirt here, you should take better care and how she and tre expect hotel treatment.
the kids dad said I\'m alone with problems, that I need to worry about everything but everything needs to be done,don\'t ask for help,your on your own. all cause his car needed repairs. he said good luck, your own your own.
I have jacks begging me for tre and ks to stop fighting,but haven\'t stopped. I\'m doing above and beyond for kids to have them complain I need to leave,I punish them,I\'m a piece of crap. even dinner,breakfast is hard,they want sweets and bacon and eggs and atm machine etc.
My answer to those children - and they need to both find another place to live IMO - If you don\'t like the way I keep the house/do the dusting here is the duster, knock yourself out and do it.
They would get cereal for breakfast - in a packet and the plate etc for them to get their own, and sweets? Boiled creamed rice - it is a sweet and my brother was =given that growing up when he wanted sweets as mum was on a pension and it was cheap and, filling and sweet. Maybe give them a banana if they are cheap enough at the moment.
Money?
If they want money they will get some when they work for it.
Time to get tough - and if that doesn\'t work Tre can go find other accommodation (he is old enough) - KS? Well I would take everything out of her room apart form the bed (and bedclothes) and enough clothes to get her through a couple of days ONLY.
And everything else she would have to work to get back.
This needs to stop and the sooner you can do that the better.
Maybe just pack Tre\'s stuff up and leave him at his dad\'s (or your mum\'s if she would put up with him). Without his support KS might just be a bit easier to handle. She is still a child and has no right to run the house or boss you around. And the longer this goes on the harder it will be reign things in.
YOU should not leave. This is YOUR house.
But maybe they should?????????
When I was a kid we didn\'t have our toys in our bedrooms. All our toys where in a huge communial toy box down staris. We got to kept the stuffed animal we slept with if we did sleep with one. I tried to tell my ex to take all the stuff away from his son and he acked like I was being horribe to him. I had nothing but to lay in my the time, and there are some great things that happened in those times. I learned to count to 100, I learned to listen. I know some of the other is older. But this is your home too. It is your house.
Hi Sophie. thinking of you all, our dear friends, and wishing you all lots of comfort, healing, and peace. i\'m so sorry you all are going through a rough time. You all are in our thoughts, and prayers. sending lots of healing energy, and wishing you all the very best of great health, and peace. We\'ll always be here for you all, our dear friends. :) we care deeply about you all. keep strong together, things are gonna be ok, and will work out well. :) keep surrounded by love, care, and support.
i need to play catch up on here really bad....have been mia, wont bore you with details. however, will say that i do care....even though we may not *chat* on a daily basis.......i do care. hope things are doing much better for you right now, as i type this....many hugs to you....aik
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I don\'t think that is true. What about your friends on here?
KS?
Tre?
I understand the time out, we all need that from time to time but please don\'t think that no-one cares OK?
Hi sweetheart whatever is going on is only temporary , IT WILL PASS. WE LOVE YOU . TAKE DEEP BREATHES IN AND SLOWLY EXHALE. KEEP HOLDING ON CUZ THINGS ARE ALWAYS CHANGING AND YOU NEVER KNOW WHATS RIGHT AROUND THE BEND FOR YOU.SOMETIMES WE JUST NEED TO SLOW DOWN AND GET A NEW PERSPECTIVE IDK WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS BUT KNOW YOU ARE SO VERY MUCH LOVED AND ALTHOUGH WE DONT TALK OFTEN IM STILL YOUR FRIEND. SO JUST HOLLAR IF I CAN BE OF ANY HELP. JUST KNOW IT WILL BE OKAY AND FEELINGS DONT ALWAYS EQUATE REALITY. YES YOU MAY NEED TIME OUT BUT YOU ARE NOT ALONE. GOD LOVES YOU AND SO DO I. HUGS , YOUR FRIEND LESLIE
I have ks telling me everyday , that I should just pack my things up and leave her,tre living here. she complains, every day, mum there\'s a speck of dirt here, you should take better care and how she and tre expect hotel treatment.
the kids dad said I\'m alone with problems, that I need to worry about everything but everything needs to be done,don\'t ask for help,your on your own. all cause his car needed repairs. he said good luck, your own your own.
I have jacks begging me for tre and ks to stop fighting,but haven\'t stopped. I\'m doing above and beyond for kids to have them complain I need to leave,I punish them,I\'m a piece of crap. even dinner,breakfast is hard,they want sweets and bacon and eggs and atm machine etc.
My answer to those children - and they need to both find another place to live IMO - If you don\'t like the way I keep the house/do the dusting here is the duster, knock yourself out and do it.
They would get cereal for breakfast - in a packet and the plate etc for them to get their own, and sweets? Boiled creamed rice - it is a sweet and my brother was =given that growing up when he wanted sweets as mum was on a pension and it was cheap and, filling and sweet. Maybe give them a banana if they are cheap enough at the moment.
Money?
If they want money they will get some when they work for it.
Time to get tough - and if that doesn\'t work Tre can go find other accommodation (he is old enough) - KS? Well I would take everything out of her room apart form the bed (and bedclothes) and enough clothes to get her through a couple of days ONLY.
And everything else she would have to work to get back.
This needs to stop and the sooner you can do that the better.
Maybe just pack Tre\'s stuff up and leave him at his dad\'s (or your mum\'s if she would put up with him). Without his support KS might just be a bit easier to handle. She is still a child and has no right to run the house or boss you around. And the longer this goes on the harder it will be reign things in.
YOU should not leave. This is YOUR house.
But maybe they should?????????
When I was a kid we didn\'t have our toys in our bedrooms. All our toys where in a huge communial toy box down staris. We got to kept the stuffed animal we slept with if we did sleep with one. I tried to tell my ex to take all the stuff away from his son and he acked like I was being horribe to him. I had nothing but to lay in my the time, and there are some great things that happened in those times. I learned to count to 100, I learned to listen. I know some of the other is older. But this is your home too. It is your house.
Hi Sophie. thinking of you all, our dear friends, and wishing you all lots of comfort, healing, and peace. i\'m so sorry you all are going through a rough time. You all are in our thoughts, and prayers. sending lots of healing energy, and wishing you all the very best of great health, and peace. We\'ll always be here for you all, our dear friends. :) we care deeply about you all. keep strong together, things are gonna be ok, and will work out well. :) keep surrounded by love, care, and support.
i need to play catch up on here really bad....have been mia, wont bore you with details. however, will say that i do care....even though we may not *chat* on a daily basis.......i do care. hope things are doing much better for you right now, as i type this....many hugs to you....aik