Hey, It's me again. I did not drink again last night. It is so easy when it is not around. But I did notice something this morning that has been bugging me. Now, don't get me wrong, I love my husband soooo much. But I notice I have a tendency to play to his moods. Like this morning, he called me and he didn't say anything bad, but i heard a tone in his voice that told me he was mad and/or aggravated. I went into panic mode like "what did I do, how can i fix it" and that is the norm for me with him, and so aften my whole day is ruined cuz he's not happy about some thing or another and usually by the time i see him or talk to him again, whatever it was is over. But then sometimes, he will bring it up days or weeks later and let me know how dissappointed he was in me. This morning I believe it was because I called my brother to make sure he would be ready when my husband got there to take him to work. My brother is lazy, undriven, I could go on, but I won't. But he has 4 kids and one on the way. I see it like somebody has to look out for those babies. My husband has fired him on several occasions for not showing up to work, but always gives him another chance. it is a stressful situation.

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hey you,my mom and dad were like you two when i was young,and now when my hubby is grumpy on the fone,i sharply reply,whats up with you(thus letting him know his grumpiness is HIS problem)dont pander to him,your not his servant,you are a good person, too worried about everyone else,what about YOU,he\'s not your dad,hes supposed to be your other half,think about you for a change,i think my hubby is a bit unsettled too cos im not drinking ,but ive got to get well for me not for him,take care,write back soon x