Well, I'm not sure how I feel, but we finally told the kids we were officially separating and that dad is moving to another house.  I guess they reacted as I thought they would, not a lot of questions and no big drama.  Then we all went to see dad's new house.  I left them there after a few minutes.  They are having fun searching through the house.  Everything is an adventure - glad we raised them like that!  Anyway, no great feeling of relief yet.  The kids hugged and supported me more than visa versa. Not sure what to expect in the days/months ahead. This entire thing just sucks.  I am glad I found this forum to vent on, because I'm tired of ranting at my friends.  Sorry if I'm using you for that - but I've truly enjoyed reading your comments and stories.  Here's hoping life gets better.