Well, alot has happened since my last writing.  Glenn was awarded control of certain bills - and child suppo rt was cut to 150/mo.  I am not even going their.  Well, the monthly payments on those bills used to be about 515/mo and I had been making the payments and got them down to 340.  After tellking the judge that he didnt have enough money to go out and get his own place..that is why the decision went in his favor.  However, he is still at grandparents and instead of paying the monthly payments as ordered by the court, he went and withdrew a SUBSTANIAL amount of money from our home equity line of credit we set up for emergencies.  He mentioned consolidating these by using these funds, but the judge denied him.  I guess his girlfriend didnt like that too much...as she is waiting for the cash flow to increase for her.  So Glenn withdrew the money, and now is in comtempt of court.  I have filed charges for that and also submitting that the control return to me as he is incapable of handeling this responsibility.  He has become so greedy a trait I have never seen in him in 23 years.  I guess his lawyer finally told him..the papers were filed on Friday because he called me and said..you expect me to pay you $%^$@ out of my next paycheck?  I said excuse me?  He repeated himself and as I am not engaging in conversation  with him about anything other than the children (I am finally in selfpreservation mode) thank GOD - I just hung the phone up with no response.  Needless to say he called back and I didnt answer and no voicemail.  I am done trying to work things out with this man...it is up to my attorney now.  I have given more than fair offers, but he wants it all.  So - his problem.  I get upset because he insults me and threatens to take everything and the kids ( now mind you, he was the one having the affair, and still is with her....by the way, they deserve each other and wish them well)  I have realized the freedom of no longer being the biggest enabler on the face of this earth.  What a burden lifted from me and our children.  I have faith that all of this nastiness and wanting the be the head M,,,,F,,,,R,,, in charge will be his downfall.  Went to volleyball game tonight with Sara and took Wes.  had fun.  He called and asked the kids if they wanted to go to Lex with him this weekend.  He has only taken them overnight once, so we will see if he actually makes it thru the weekend.  I doubt it.  He will only have Wes on Friday night as Sara has other plans and she told him so.  I already know that he will work on Wesley hard this weekend about living with him.  If he does, just another case of him using his children - and everything has been documents since day one.  I hate he does this to Wes but I also have to learn that it is out of my control.  I am trying to let go of things I cannot control....but it is very hard when it comes to the kids.  I am thinking about taking a drive to Inidana and seeing my cousins.  I think it would do me well to just get away for a day and night.  They are encouraging me to do that.  I might, we will see.  Tomorrow is eight grade night for the kids sports...Sara Volleyball and Wes Football.  The parents walk the children out and the coaches talk about the kids.  I know this will be an incredibly proud moment for Sara and myself.....and probably Glenn.  The thought of us walking together makes my stomach turn, but I will do anything for our kids.  Wesley Grandfather, who has been ill a longtime will walk him out.  He is the big football alumni in this town and Wesley wanted it that way.  Glenns mother tried to pressure Wes into having his dad, but he said he wanted Poppy.  I filled them in that if they have a problem with anything, once again, talk to me and not the kids...they just made him feel bad.  I feel better today......yeah!