Well, would anyone care to let me know why, after my husband, who has been having a "relationship" - not an affair, since last June 2006...I am the one who now has to fight so hard to preserve what we have worked for for 23 years.......19 in our current location. My STBX is partying and living life and I am doing research on past banks statements, going to court only to have him awarded this and that..because he makes more than I do. He has lied to get what he got last time and I am spending my weekend documenting the money he has wasted over our lifetime. He has moved on with a women who will not stand by him like I have, loved him like I have, and take care of him and our children like I have however, she IS about having fun with no responsiiblity and he as left his two children to do just that. 16 hours and one overnight since June 28th - come on. I just dont understand why I am putting so much time in to hold on to what we have built for our children...and he can just live life. I am just at a loss...although I believe that he will get what he deserves at some point in his life.....he is not accountable as soon as I would like him to be. Then, when he has a few hours a weekend ever now and then - the kids are excited to see him. I really get that, but it infurates me at the same time as he has not been a part of their practices, needs, worries or wants. He just picks them up and takes them to a movie of whatever......just a few hours of fun. I am so angry....what has the world become. I just dont understand. Needed to rant I guess. Feel better now.................thanks.....K.
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Don\'t concern yourself about the stbx or his g/f. Your concern is your kids and you. He left your life, he showed what he thought of the vows he took with you. I know it\'s harsh but to heal you have to let go. He left a long time ago, now it\'s your turn.
Concentrate on your kids, and on yourself. Keep talking with friends, counseler and us at DS.
You will get through this part of your journey thru life.
We may never understand how they can do what they are doing. It\'s like they know we\'re extremely responsible and we will find a way, and their children will be fine in our hands. And they will be fine, and somehow we will too.
It is infuriating that our stbx\'s evade all the day to day effort and just get to swoop in when convenient for fun time. Our kids are smart and they realize what is going on. We\'ll have the respect and admiration of our kids! {{HUGS}}