Ok, When we arrived, I called to check on the house and our friends were staying there.  They do everytime we go on vacation to take care of our cats and dogs. We do live on a farm aferall, what is a farm without animals. Well, Glenn answered to phone.  I began to shake.  I was in the car with my kids and family, so I really could not say what I wanted to say.  I asked him what he was doing there.  He asked me If I would like him to leave and I said yes then hung up.  I was physically just sick.  There was nothing I could do.  I was in Delaware and he was in our home.  I made the decision that I had to let that go and I did after a couple of hours.  That angered me so much.  He left voice mails twice during the week, and called the kids more than he had when they were in the same town.  That made me mad too because the previous 2 weeks he had only spent less than an hour with each of them.  He has always been a great father and the only thing I can think is that he is ashamed of what he has done.  At least that is the only thing that makes sense to me.  He has not shown me any remorse at all, so I am having a hard time even finding a reason why he is not seeing his kids.  It is very hurtful to them.  The three of us have continued therapy and she told me that our kids are very well adjusted and smart.  They know exactly what is going on.  She said they did not need to come anymore unless they exhibit behavior out of the ordinary, which may be hard to know because they will both be fourteen in 3 months, but she said for me to continue and we could talk about things the kids are saying together.