Help!!
Ok I hope someone here can give me some advice about my problem.
I have been talking on line to this man, at the moment he is in China, he's a engineer. He will be coming back to the states soon. He is a little older than me. I'm 57, he is 65. He is a clean cut guy, seems nice and all that. But he is jumping the gun already about us and this has me very uneasy. He even went so far as to write about him buying a house here and us living together. We haven't even met yet. I have told him he is moving way to fast for me. And that I want to live on my own for awhile once I do find myself a place. That we could date and take it from there. You know, see how it goes and see if there is any spark there. I don't feel any spark yet. But he does and that has me worried. And I have told him if there isn't anything there then that will be it.
So what do my friends say about this? And to be truthful right now I'm enjoying being single. I like going out and about and looking at guys and maybe even flirting a little. It gives me a little thrill. I don't see myself being tied down to one person right now. If I did meet someone and the sparks were there and he felt the same way about me, yeah I would settle down. But I don't think this guy is the one and I hate to hurt his feelings. I have tried to tell him in a round about way but he doesn't seem to take the hint. And he's a smart guy. Any ideas?
I have been talking on line to this man, at the moment he is in China, he's a engineer. He will be coming back to the states soon. He is a little older than me. I'm 57, he is 65. He is a clean cut guy, seems nice and all that. But he is jumping the gun already about us and this has me very uneasy. He even went so far as to write about him buying a house here and us living together. We haven't even met yet. I have told him he is moving way to fast for me. And that I want to live on my own for awhile once I do find myself a place. That we could date and take it from there. You know, see how it goes and see if there is any spark there. I don't feel any spark yet. But he does and that has me worried. And I have told him if there isn't anything there then that will be it.
So what do my friends say about this? And to be truthful right now I'm enjoying being single. I like going out and about and looking at guys and maybe even flirting a little. It gives me a little thrill. I don't see myself being tied down to one person right now. If I did meet someone and the sparks were there and he felt the same way about me, yeah I would settle down. But I don't think this guy is the one and I hate to hurt his feelings. I have tried to tell him in a round about way but he doesn't seem to take the hint. And he's a smart guy. Any ideas?
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Well to me it would be best to just tell him ,that you don\'t feel the same way about him. It might hurt him but I think would be more hurtful to let him think there is something there when there isn\'t (feelings for him). Hugs & greenies
I think he knows now how I feel. Heaven knows I\'ve told him enough times. He has backed off some. But he still wants to meet me when he gets here. I don\'t give him any thing to think that I feel as he does about me. Time will tell I guess....
It certainly won\'t hurt to meet him. Just tell him you need to start being friends first and get to know each other much better. Then MAYBE there can be romance, but you can\'t promise him that. Wow, alot of men do move way too fast... this has me puzzled... why is he being irrational??? I would never move in with someone that quick...
Don\'t have to worry about that guy any more. He wanted me to send him some money and I said no way in hell would I do that. So I blocked his e mails. I had a feeling something wasn\'t right with him. Should have listened to my guts.
Thanks for the comments. Hugs to all.
Oh no, so he was a catfish.... the nerve and audasity of some men. This is very common. Always go with your gut feeling. So glad you are rid of him. hugs
you sound great and good to hear that you are dating.
glad you found out in advance that he was just hunting for money. gross.
best of luck with the moving. xxoo