All i can say is God gave us our family, but thank God we can choose our friends. I have been spending so much time with my mother recently, because she claims i never hang out with her, and she said if my aunt came over, i would be ready to dump her in a minute ( she would be right) and i am trying to keep my heart pure while i am with her, but i am finding it incredulously hard.. i am little miss positivity, and she is so negative, it is almost humanly impossible to posses the world view that she has. I can't get her to realize that only YOU can control how you feel, someone else cannot force you to be mad, unless you allow them to. We went to a restaurant called wolfgang's for breakfast, and she proceeds to ask the waitress about portion sizes, and the waitress told her that everything comes big, like two people can split one meal.. she goes " oh what will i get, because she ( pointing to me) doesn't eat so i will have to eat this alone...what the hell? i stayed calm, and i just got coffee and a cinnamon roll to shut her up.we then went to get my oil changed, and i just found myself dreading her being in such close proximity to me.. i feel bad, because that is my mother and i should love and adore her.. i do love her and all, but i just feel we can't be "mom/daughter/bosom buddies" like we are not close at all.. my mom is also jealous, because i think the world of my aunt, and she told me the other day .."you don't want to be like her" i was thinking.. yes the hell i do..1) gorgeous2) succesfull ( vice president of human resources for my college $$$)3) smart ( three master's degrees yes.. un, deux, trois !)4) just all around awesome I just need advice on how to "like my mother more"
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You know what? She\'s your mom. You can have a mother/daughter relationship with her WITHOUT being \"best friends\". And when she says things like that, you should respond in the manner she deserves. Not out of anger, but with perfect calm, and say \"Mom, when you say things like that you embarrass me, make me ashamed of my illness (when I NEED support) and you undermine our relationship, because then I don\'t want to be around you.\" Some people are so wrapped up in their own thoughts that they actually need somone to POINT OUT to them that they are being cruel, thoughtless or less than supportive.
Hey i thk ur mother is jelous of u and ur aunt and the bond between u too! she obviously wishes she were more like u why else wud she humiliate u in a restaurant like tht! that sounded nasty if she were nicer too u maybe u wud be spending more time with her! she sounds irritating!
You don\'t have to be like your mom more. If you ever have kids you may see more of your mom coming out of you than you\'d care to see. Just be you and be healthy.