He keeps postponing the, hopefully, last mediation session and even the mediators cannot understand it. Doesn't he want this over with, already? We are about 90% in agreement. I need this done. Unlike him, I won't be intimate with someone while we are still married. Heck, I wouldn't even go out for coffee with a man, now!  I just believe in marriage vows and contracts. Call me old fashioned. My teens would absolutely freak out, too...Not that there IS anyone right now, but I won't set that kind of example. On the other hand he keeps telling the kids that they will like his girlfriend and that she is a good person and cannot wait to get to know them, etc... (They haven't met her yet even though they have lived together since fall- I said  not until divorce is final)  How does one deal with this? I am sure she has a few good traits- my stbx would not have fallen for a complete b**ch, but how about making her talk to them about her morals and decisions first? He is trying to paint her as an innocent bystander instead of the married woman who pursued the married man. My teens are bright. They knew there was an affair before I did, because I trusted in my husband's integrity and they looked further.  I would feel differently if we had split and there wasn't an affair, first. If he met her AFTER the divorce, I would have no issues with her because then she WOULD  have been uninvolved in the divorce. He keeps thinking I should be happy for him! I just cannot be that person. Forgiveness? I have no savings because of him, almost no retirement money saved, now,  4 times the debt and no trust.  I still sleep poorly. I am paying for 90% of all of the girls expenses and he thinks I should be "over my anger and frustration". We are not even divorced yet and he paid our first agreed upon child support payment 2 weeks late and hasn't paid June, yet. and, because he won't LOOK for a f/t job the amount doesn't even cover half of the food bill for the kids for a month. I am SO frustrated. Right now, I cannot imagine ever feeling OK with everything yet alone "happy for him"...