Me and my boyfriend has been together for 7 yrs and I don't know about the relationship on reasons b/c either he dosen't know or can't be compassionate when i need him. To be honesty is has never been here for me. I've always been here for him with out questions. My first m/c I remeber we had an argument the night before and we said some mean things . I was so angry at him until I said something about the baby I still regret from this day.I had a Dr appt
the next day. I went for a check up and the dr told me he couldn't fine a heartbeat and that I might just be to early. I went home I called my mom and and she told me to go to the ER. I went.... to make a long story short i was there a long time and then they told me the baby was dead. I tried to call home to my boyfriend but he was next door. Finally after forever trying my mom finally got a hold of him and told him and he still didn't come to the ER. That hurt me more than anything. The second m/c he was locked up and I went threw that one by myself. my third preg he was here for the birth of our son. Now this m/c it the same as the first almost because he telling me he doesn't know what to do for me because he has alot to lose if he get depressed with me and he thinks I need help because he can't help me. I don't know what to do. I don't know where to go. This is just my side maybe if you heard his side then I guess you could understand. Maybe it is me...It alot more to this story to much to type and it would be selfish of me to take up your time.
the next day. I went for a check up and the dr told me he couldn't fine a heartbeat and that I might just be to early. I went home I called my mom and and she told me to go to the ER. I went.... to make a long story short i was there a long time and then they told me the baby was dead. I tried to call home to my boyfriend but he was next door. Finally after forever trying my mom finally got a hold of him and told him and he still didn't come to the ER. That hurt me more than anything. The second m/c he was locked up and I went threw that one by myself. my third preg he was here for the birth of our son. Now this m/c it the same as the first almost because he telling me he doesn't know what to do for me because he has alot to lose if he get depressed with me and he thinks I need help because he can't help me. I don't know what to do. I don't know where to go. This is just my side maybe if you heard his side then I guess you could understand. Maybe it is me...It alot more to this story to much to type and it would be selfish of me to take up your time.
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Honey let me tell you men don\'t really know what to do and he\'s right he can\'t get depress, how would you feel if you saw him cring what would you do? you would start cring too but let me remind you men don\'t know how it feel to have a baby growing inside of you depending on you to survive and plus men are not senitive to us Heck my husband didn\'y feel like a dad untill my kids were born but thats ok. Now what puzzles me is why your boyfriend haven\'t just held you while you cry your eyes out that at least he can do to show he cares. Men are not prepared for these stuff, Heck we too are not aware on what to do or feel so give him a lil break but you shouldn\'t go through it alone and if he\'s not there for you, we are at D&S and me too
tell us anything and everything we are here to listen and if you were taking up our time we wouldn\'t be here. :-) you talk i\'ll listen. much love and hugs to you. and guys can be @$$holes we all know that. mine is the same way. it\'s probably not you or at least 50-50.