ms. hathaway, a lady that i speak to at the fitness club, asked me how i was doing and then i asked how she was doing.  she told me she is okay, since she had just finalized her divorce of 19 years.  i was calling her mrs.  i didn't know she was involved in a divorce.  i asked again how was she and did she think they, her and her husband, will be friends.  she said she hopes so b/c they have four children.i get devastated after someone leaves me after a few months.  i thought how i would feel after being with someone for 19 years.  i'm clingy.  i want to be more independent.  i want to be able to enjoy my time alone and not feel alone.