someone today talked about not wanting to touch their room mate. there are certain types of people i don't like to touch or touch me. guys who remind me of my abuser/uncle, i do not like for them to touch me and i'll have this negative attitude towards them. i'm thinking about my coping mechanisms: present and past. i don't think they are working for me now--i know they're not. today, i hear black guys tell me that i have something against black people. i wondered about that at first. i never thought i did and i don't. certain black guys that remind me of my uncle/abuser i realize i have a problem with. there are all kinds of feelings that i have. i'm black. growing up i spent a lot of time in predominately white areas. i did not think much of it, but now looking back i was avoiding black people--i think mainly men. i use to stay in my house bathroom for hours. i would lay on the floor and stare up at the ceiling. i knew if the bathroom door was clothes noone would disturb me. when i was younger, after leaving the barber, i wouid become agitated (b/c the barber had his hands on me, mainly my head) and i would come in the house with an perturbed and head for the bathroom. i would wash my body and lay on the floor quietly. the process took about an hour. that is how i coped with that issue.
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