Im crying. Inside Im torn to shreds, and cannot seem to grasp whats real anymore. After work today my father called me, and said he needed to talk to me, and wouldnt say anymore than that. Well, the news he had to tell me was bad. My grandfather is dying. He has cancer, but no one will tell me what kind, or how bad it is, though, I have an idea. The doctors estimate he only has 1 month left, and I find myself in a quanfry now, wondering how I should approach this. Ive been crying for I know no other way of soothing the pain I feel right now. Im really in a dilemma because I just started a job working for the county, so I have no time off, so I highly doubt they will let me go up to see him one last time. HELP!
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First, go and see him! I know when I visited a friend that was dying in the hospital, that It helped me deal with his loss so much. Explain the situation and they should let you go. If not, go anyway. There are more jobs, I\'m sure. Life always ends and I know that might not help you much, but the best we can do is live for the ones we lose, because we still can. Of course he is still alive and that is why you need to see him. I am sorry for your pain and hope you find a way to get through.
Go see him while you can... at the very least, go for a weekend or a few days ASAP. Jobs come and jobs go... you can always get another job, but you cannot replace people.
I\'m so sorry! You must have some time during the day or evening that you can see him. The job will understand; just tell them. He\'ll be so glad you came to him!
oh gosh... *hugs tight tight tight* breathe, take a deep breath in....and let it out. in....out. *hugs again* I\'m so sorry. I hope you can go see him. Try, or at least call? I\'m here to talk if you need it. He could very well live longer than they said, many people do. Go up during a weekend, or ask for time off because of this. I\'m sure they\'ll understand. Spend some time with him. Hold his hand. It\'ll be hard to confront it, but grief works like this. Crying is a valid way to bleed things out. Remember we are here for you.
x Elizabeth *hugs
I would explain the situation to your boss. I think you should go see your grandfather.
family comes first honey, tell them ur situation xxx
I agree with everyone else. You will always regret it if you don\'t take the time to go see him. I made that mistake when my grandmother was dying and I kept working instead of taking time off to see her. (I was in a job that required me to travel a lot and was out of state.) That was years ago, and I still regret it. Blessings, DD
You\'ll regret it if you don\'t go.I think work will understand.You can only ask
I think an impending death in the family can get you at least three days off in most jobs even if you are new. Talk to your supervisor and see what happens. You do need to do this for yourself and maybe having you there will help him in his passing. Hugs, Georgia
I was faced with this tragic situation too. they told my grandad he had cancer of the bones in the US and he had three wks to live. My family flew out to get him, my mom brought food to him every day and i would pray and pray for the Lord not to take my grandfther, not yet as i had only met him the once. My wish was granted. My grandad moved from a hospice to his one bedroom flat. he travelled to NY to visit his friends and visited us every weekend. He lived 3yrs since he was diognosed and died in our home where we nursed him. I wrote him a poem before he died telling him all the things i remember of him and told him iloved him. He said \"i love you too grandaughter\". Those words mean so much to me and i will cherish those memories with him and carry on his traditions some of them anyway. :) I hope you find a way to make your burdens lighter. Try not to worry too much and i will keep you in my prayers.