About 6 months ago my husband of 10 yrs said he wasnt happy in our marriage, he didnt want to go to counseling.  He change for about 2 months and then he went back to saying he wasnt happy and he wanted a divorce.  He moved out of the house yesterday, he says he still cares about me and that he will miss me but he wants a divorce.  We have 3 children together that I know he loves with all his heart.  He is in the miliary and in his last deployment thats when he started to change, cold, distant, indifferent.  He used to be really goofy, fun, happy, he still is sometimes but not like he used to.  He said "is not you is me" (so cliche).  I am in so much pain and hurt.  Somedays I hate his guts, somedays I love him more than anything.  I cried, I screamed, I begged, I lost my dignity by been so clingy.  I know I have to let him go and I need to deal with the separation but its easier said than done.  He wants to remain friends cause he still cares and cause of the kids but I dont know if I can do it, we are still civil and friendly to each other.  The worst part is that he is about to deploy again in 4 months and I feel so impotent.