For some reason the last few days have been extremely hard. Missing my wife and daughter so much, I dont understand this, but my lose of my daughter seems to be harder than I thought. Is it wrong to miss her more than my wife? Is there something wrong with my feelings or is this just a natural way of grief? I miss my wife of 20 years beyond what I can imagine. The hurt is so hard and the pain just seems to not be letting up, in fact at times seems worse. Is the fact that I went back to work a month after the accident and now I am in slow time so I have no work, allowing all the emotions and grief to come flooding in. I just dont understand, other than I miss my girls so much. I know the missing of them will never go away and the love I had for them will never fade. Keep pressing on day by day and lots of praying, thats all I know what to do.
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RJ,
This journey we are on is an up and down hill ride. I cannot imagine mourning two loves - but mourn them both you must. It is okay to give your daughter your grief and perhaps another day you mourn for your wife?
Just know that there are no rules to this journey. Feel what you feel. Don\'t question the emotions - they are yours and your\'s alone. One day at a time, sometimes one minute at a time and yes, pray.
Blessings,
Linda
It\'s natural to mourn your daughter more, they aren\'t suppossed to die first. I\'m so sorry for your losses. I know it must seem you won\'t get thru this, but you will, by the grace of God. Your son needs you so much now. I hope you work picks up, it will be something to distract you and I\'m sure you could use the income.
I have a man I worked with, that lost his wife and daughter in an accident, and he said it took alot of counseling to get him thru it. Maybe a church could recommend someone to talk to.
My prayers are with you.