I cannot deal with Paul's depression anymore. He is negative each and every time i call him and no matter how i try he brings the conversation back to how bad he feels and 'it is all part of the disease". I basically told him today it was frustrating the hell out of me and that i only speak to him for a short while because i hate the dark cloud that also descends on me day after day when i speak to him.I stick to my guns in that breaking the cycle is what is needed. He says he cant because he feels physically unwell with it and tired etc. , but I can see that is simply because his mind has shut down his body. Not to do anything about it is giving in.  Life is about fighting.I reminded him that he was never always this negative and he has achieved heaps in his life so he has the capacity to get better but that he has to draw on his past to get it.I ended up phoning his Dad and telling him to go over there for i have had enough. I cant deal with it. Selfishly, i am sad to lose what he gave me in my life, but i cannot deal with this negative stuff, not after all that i have been through and fought myself.  I can be sympathetic and helpful, but i cant do it every day and every minute. I feel guilty when i dont have the urge to talk to him a lot, but what can i do? for when i phone him then as i feel guilty, he is dark and gloomy again which again sets off the dark cloud thing.  Only he can get himself together. I cannot understand  how he cannot even think about getting out of bed or getting dressed each day.