Just a day where he is in the background. Telling me he is going to retire at 50 (2 years) which is a lie. That he has arthritic hands and cant operate.  That i should get a job not as a physio, but as a practice manager.Firstly i have been out of physio for 14 years. Secondly although i ran our practice well, I am not a trained practice manager and nor do i want to be one or to work in that field. I just want this to be behind me so i have none of this shit in my life from him before. It hurts that he is trying to rip me off and give me less money. I read him very well and i know full well what he is trying to do. It hurts that he would do that.I am scared of being financially independent, but it needs to happen so that i can move away from him. And when that happens, there will be no more times where i fix things up with him for the kids, like a few nights ago. Our son went to Townsville to see supposedly his Dad, but it was really his friends.  He refused to stay with his dad on the first night, and mark phoned me and abused the crap out of me for turning his son against him and putting him up to it.  Ridiculous.  But i rang Nick and explained that he should stay with his dad, which he did from then on. I fixed it. After we have a legally binding financial arrangement, i will have nothing to do with mark and do nothing for him. There will be no need to do any sucking up to keep him level headed or nice to me. None. That will be great. Nearly 3 years i have had this shit in my life. Nearly 3 years. No wonder i feel so crap at times.  I thought i was better overall, but something then pops up which makes me feel i am no better at all.  Always something else. I need him to leave me alone. Set me free and go on and live his miserable life away from mine. Let me live my  life which will be wonderful. I know it because i feel it.