Cant write much tonight as he is here in my house in Brisbane and it is miserable between us as usual. Over money as he wants to do some huge investment and needs me to stay with him to do it, so that is his drive to get back with me. When I put up any resistance to his ideas for borrowing more money he gets shitty and bullies me with hurtful comments. He says he does not but I know he does. That is what a bully does, denies what he says is cruel or bullying.I am not overly wise financially, but I am sure that you should not over extend yourself. WE have a lot of investments and most of the equity that we have in our stuff is supposedly to be used to draw down another loan to buy a block of land and then build a two storey commercial building on it.He needs some more equity and wants to use that what we have in our homes - there will be about 400,000 dollars in them. That will mean he will use that equity to borrow more. Well, I dont think it is right to borrow against all of your equity. Some, yes, but not all.What if something goes wrong? You are left with nothing???I need to find a financial advisor asap.He says he will only wait until Monday to sign the contract, but that does not give me time to do anything. There is something about taking our super fund money out and using that as well and I am not happy with that idea either.Each time I put up an arguement I get in the shit and get accused of holding him back. But I have stymied many of his ideas thankfully, as many of them have not proven worthwhile or the worries that I had about pursuing them have been in fact true.I feel bullied.When I say no he gets angry.How can I live my life like this. He is with me for his money. He openly admits it.Where are my flowers, my jewels, my holidays?Only nasty narky negative comments.I need out of this.When I tell him I want to go and give up, he refuses to go.