Today has been a bad day i guess trying to figure out a headstone for my baby ashlyn and it is hard...I visited the cemertary today..Talked for awhile but i find it hard to visit just because i never thought i would ever have to do it..I visited it before because my father in law passed away just a year and half before my baby ashlyn did so they are together...I really fell bad for my husband who had to bury two loved one in a short time...i just wish the outcome for both of then would of been different then so much of the same..Right now to i feel sad because my sister in law and she is also my best friend is pregnant and having a girl the same time my baby ashlyn was to be born and it hurts alot right now...I just wonder why me..It hurts so bad..But i guess what can u do...I offten felt like trying again but i think it isnt another baby i want it is her...My baby ashlyn who was suppose to be my last..Truely would it eas a void or fell like i was replacing her...Or Would it be ok...People ask me all the time wehn i was gonna try again but i just think...I tragically lost my daughter...It was the worst thing in my life and it has only been 9 months..But I know another child will never fill the void i have in my heart for her...Never...
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If you want another child, I think that\'s fine. Devin was my first child, so I do want another child. Another baby will never replace the baby\'s we lost, but I know we would love another child. It\'s a personal decision, but if that\'s what you wanted, I\'m sure that\'s what your daughter would want for you. For me, not having a child would leave me with a bigger void than giving Devin a brother or sister. For someone that already has other children, that may be a different story. I know this is such a hard thing, I wish your little girl could be with you, and Devin could be with me.
If you feel like you want another child, then you should try for one. Another child won\'t replace your daughter, she will always be with you in your heart. Only you know when you are ready. I\'m so sorry you lost her. Your in my prayers. Hugs.
I agree with CDLT. Another child will never replace Ashlyn. I am also sorry you lost her and I understand the pain. I send my prayers to you.
hi, my name is Helen, i have 2 daughters aged 13 and 11 and 2 angel babies. my son would be two now and my daughter angel would be 8 months. Nothin or nobody could replace any of my children. it wouldn\'t matter how many kids i have i will always miss and cherish my angels. When i was pregnant with my second angel i still missed and longed for my son and i always will, i did feel half normal again what ever normal is!!! but then she to grew wings, and i now long for both my angels. You and your husband has to decide together what is best for you, him and your family (meaning your son) my husband and i have decided not to have any more children but that is because we already have two older kids but you and your husband may feel like you want more and you should have more, you deserve more but when you are ready don\'t rush yourself, be true to yourself and together you will decide. i feel your pain believe me i do. i wish none of us had to make these decisions but we do,and we have to make them for us.
hi, my name is Helen, i have 2 daughters aged 13 and 11 and 2 angel babies. my son would be two now and my daughter angel would be 8 months. Nothin or nobody could replace any of my children. it wouldn\'t matter how many kids i have i will always miss and cherish my angels. When i was pregnant with my second angel i still missed and longed for my son and i always will, i did feel half normal again what ever normal is!!! but then she to grew wings, and i now long for both my angels. You and your husband has to decide together what is best for you, him and your family (meaning your son) my husband and i have decided not to have any more children but that is because we already have two older kids but you and your husband may feel like you want more and you should have more, you deserve more but when you are ready don\'t rush yourself, be true to yourself and together you will decide. i feel your pain believe me i do. i wish none of us had to make these decisions but we do,and we have to make them for us.
I too am facing the decision of having another child. Trust your heart.