When Jeff passed I took over his cell phone and gave mine to my husband. I wanted Jeff's because it has his voice on the email. My other sons have asked me to take Jeff's voice off because it huts them to call me and hear him. I love all of my sons but this is all that I have left of Jeff.  At work all of our phone calls are recorded so I had my boss email me Jeff's recording. I plan to back up the message on a disc that I can listen to all I want. I still don't want to take the message off my phone. How can they even ask it of me? I am the mother, he's my chold and he's dead. It's my phone. If you do not want to hear my beautiful message don't call me or just let it ring twice.  Why do I feel like I'm a bad mother if I leave it on? My dad says life is for the living, so take it off. What about me and my needs? I'm alive. I had a very busy weekend cleaning house and cooking. I'm turning into quite the domestic goddess. Wouldn't it be swell  if I could be a housewife now thatI have a house?