Just had toes surgery and feeling the pain now because the anesthesia started to wear off.  Had to turn on the aircon because the weather is in the 90's.  I will stop lingering on my son's issue.  Like you guys said, I can't do anything about it.  For one, he refuses to talk to me at all.  I pray to God that He continues to bless my DIL with good health to go through this difficult time in her/their lives.