I am happy my family is reconnecting but getting pulled in my kids problems is too much to handle for me at this point.  I love to hear news from them but the bad news are wearing me out.  I am losing sleep, appetite and breaking out with rashes.  When we became distant, I struggled on my own - financially, emotionally and survived cancer.  It was a difficult long journey, none of my kids were there; only God, my loving and supportive friends were there.  Is it selfish to ask to be spared from their problems this time and let me live what ever time I have left?