I recently completed another chapter in the PTSD workbook, and am having issues with it.  Here is my dilemna.  I do not undertand what "No," means.  I feel like ever since that night, my no became a yes.  However, if I say yes to someone, and don't follow through it is a no, which in turn makes me a hyprocrite, and the Bible condemns that.  James speaks of having our yes be yes and our no no.  The more I think about that he could mean "respect for others and boundaries."  So I guess the next question is respect.  What is "respect?"  Here is what the internet says, and the link to it as well.  http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/respect.  1.a particular, detail, or point (usually prec. by in): to differ in some respect. 2.relation or reference: inquiries with respect to a route. 3.esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability: I have great respect for her judgment. 4.deference to a right, privilege, privileged position, or someone or something considered to have certain rights or privileges; proper acceptance or courtesy; acknowledgment: respect for a suspect's right to counsel; to show respect for the flag; respect for the elderly. 5.the condition of being esteemed or honored: to be held in respect. 6.respects, a formal expression or gesture of greeting, esteem, or friendship: Give my respects to your parents. 7.favor or partiality. 8.Archaic. a consideration. –verb (used with object) 9.to hold in esteem or honor: I cannot respect a cheat. 10.to show regard or consideration for: to respect someone's rights. 11.to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with: to respect a person's privacy. 12.to relate or have reference to. —Idioms 13.in respect of, in reference to; in regard to; concerning. 14.in respect that, Archaic. because of; since. 15.pay one's respects, a.to visit in order to welcome, greet, etc.: We paid our respects to the new neighbors. b.to express one's sympathy, esp. to survivors following a death: We paid our respects to the family. 16.with respect to, referring to; concerning: with respect to your latest request.  I believe numbers 10 and 11 are the real definition.  I guess the issue that arises is, "How does one show respect for someones boundaries when he or she does not know what yes or no mean after his or her violation?"  CAN ANY OF YOU ANSWER THIS FOR ME.   Does any of this make sense?  I know that on that night I had boundaries.  I kept telling him, "No," but he would not listen to me.  He wouldn't!!!!  I kept telling him that I trust him that he wouldn't take advantage of me, plus I gave him the definition of rape, but its like he didn't care.  He took advantage of the fact that my brother was going to prison.  He is a SICK man who desperately needs needs God.