This is a jump from my writings about the whole process of the events leading up to Sarah's death, but it just goes to show that even in the midst of all the tragedy there are funny moments.
When we knew that Sarah was going to die, I knew that I was going to have to be the one to write Sarah's obituary. I sat down with Ryan and asked how I should refer to him in the article. He and Sarah had been together for three years and had been living together for the last two. He was more than a boyfriend, not officially a fiance. We didn't like the terms life partner, special friend or companion. Someone suggested that we just use the term "her beloved". I had to veto that because I said that I was already using that for her cats. Everyone found it quite funny that he had to play second fiddle to the cats.
In the end I came up with the term "her best friend and life's love" which described their relationship perfectly.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Who would of ever thought that we would of needed to find the words to describe our children\'s loves.. My heart goes out to you. Hugs Wendy
RememberKala
RememberKala

How wonderful for you to be able to write this journal, to find the humor in such a horrible time. I love the term your finally decided on, and I\'ll bet Sarah got a laugh out of the process!

To Sarah, her beloved cats, her best friend and life\'s love, and her precious mom, hugs and peace, Teri.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I am so sorry for your loss. It has been eleven months for me and I still have a hard time journaling. Somehow to do this it makes it all too \"real\" Thank you for sharing your funny moments and your precious Sarah with us.Hugs to you today. :)
CorriesMom
CorriesMom

What a blessing and a gift that you are able to smile even while your grief is so new and raw. I love that Ryan played second fiddle to Sarah\'s beloved cats in the obit! And what you came up with was absolutely right on and perfect!

Sending much love and tight hugs to you today ~ Debbie
KandL
KandL

That is such a beautiful way you described Sarah\'s love & her beloved cats. Much love & hugs to all of you that so love your beautiful Sarah. Linda
annsullivan
annsullivan

Love the words you picked...
deleted_user
deleted_user

Such wisdom you have. I have enjoyed reading this journal entry but I am so sorry for your loss of Sarah. I would like to be your friend. Sincerely, BarbaraWawa
Abotsd
Abotsd

it\'s good to laugh! my son, jake, who died, was the comedian of our family and we miss him more than words can say. so thanks for the entry. and i\'m so sorry for your loss.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I think your description of Ryan was perfect! And I\'m so glad you were able to find some humor amidst the sadness of your situation. My son has been gone a year, now. He died May 22, \'09, the beginning of the Memorial Day weekend. We had 20 minutes to write the obit, before the paper closed for the holiday--and we were so worried about remembering the basics, (which we were having trouble with because we were so upset) that we forgot to say things like \"Beloved\" son. I realized that after we sent it in... Hugs, Cherie