Feeling better
Thanks everyone for talking me through another crisis. Reminding me to take care of myself is something I needed to hear. I've since left my father to decide on his own health care. I've talked to God and turned him over to him.
Dad is having surgery on his foot again tomorrow. A pin came out of his toe, pulled out by his blanket, the doctor said. Normally I would have blamed myself. But now, I see it as my father's decision. Also I discovered he missed a medication dose. When I pointed it out, I saw the flicker in my father's eyes that he needed help. He admitted that he did. I will help him when he asks for help. If he ever gets to the point where he appears incapable of caring for himself, I will seek help from other programs.
I am moving in with him. I'm a widow and looking for a condo or townhouse in my state of mind is not a good idea. I've told my father that the move is temporary. He told me that he hopes I stay. I've also explained to him that I'm an adult that needs and expects the same respect I give him. He's agreed to my terms, but I did tell him that if this arrangement does not work for us, I will move out. I'm financially able to do this, so he took it seriously.
I've seen a change in him. A relization that he is not controling my life. I know my situation is not perfect. I know that there will be up and down days, but I'm bracing myself for it.
I intend to cut out a picture of a condo/townhouse and place it on a white board. I plan to move next year. DH died in March. With any luck I will be in my new home in March of 2011. I feel my husband is smiling at that. He always wanted to settle down in a house or something, but I always wanted to move. He used to joke that I said, 'let's move' so many times that he feared our conure would start saying it.
Dad is having surgery on his foot again tomorrow. A pin came out of his toe, pulled out by his blanket, the doctor said. Normally I would have blamed myself. But now, I see it as my father's decision. Also I discovered he missed a medication dose. When I pointed it out, I saw the flicker in my father's eyes that he needed help. He admitted that he did. I will help him when he asks for help. If he ever gets to the point where he appears incapable of caring for himself, I will seek help from other programs.
I am moving in with him. I'm a widow and looking for a condo or townhouse in my state of mind is not a good idea. I've told my father that the move is temporary. He told me that he hopes I stay. I've also explained to him that I'm an adult that needs and expects the same respect I give him. He's agreed to my terms, but I did tell him that if this arrangement does not work for us, I will move out. I'm financially able to do this, so he took it seriously.
I've seen a change in him. A relization that he is not controling my life. I know my situation is not perfect. I know that there will be up and down days, but I'm bracing myself for it.
I intend to cut out a picture of a condo/townhouse and place it on a white board. I plan to move next year. DH died in March. With any luck I will be in my new home in March of 2011. I feel my husband is smiling at that. He always wanted to settle down in a house or something, but I always wanted to move. He used to joke that I said, 'let's move' so many times that he feared our conure would start saying it.
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