feeling better

i feel better just trying to go with things and see what happens. i was at a really crazy place in my head when i thought everything was falling apart and lost controp of my feelings and emotions. i really have slowed them down alot thank god. spent time with gf last two days and things were ok. def better second day. we laughed so much it was fun. was upset in morning cause she confused and still cant talk and started off my day saying how she knows she wants to see me but when we were split was glad to have more time to herself although she missed me. so ya i was pissed as usual. text as usual million times saying why stress we can just make time whenever we have it. get stuff done together which we never have. we never eat home cooked meal. always eat out couple nights. we dont do errands together. so i said maybe it will help. she didnt really reply to anything. said it shouldnt be a battle she should know by now this is where she wants to be after almost 5  months. it should not cause her stress to make time for someone she enjoys being with. she puts so much pressure on herself about everything especially work. oh well off to work i go

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Something popped into my mind while reading this journal entry. Your g/f may be an Introvert. Introverts NEED and REQUIRE alone time ~ like Oxygen. It\'s the way *we* re-energize, ..yes I am one too. People require alot of our energy on a daily basis. It\'s something Extroverts can\'t really understand, because for them being around people actually energizes them!
I\'m dating a spunky, total extrovert and she has a real hard time understanding my need for alone time. When I say I want to be alone; I mean it. ALONE. I want peace, quiet and no responsibility to nobody but myself. After a day (or two) I\'m totally refreshed and can\'t wait to hang with my g/f, friends, family, etc. We\'re a very misunderstood minority, but understanding this \'quirk\' is VERY important to us because this is how we are made and we simply can\'t change it.

Just a thought to consider and something that may give you some fresh insight into your girl\'s personality/character.

((long hug))
alijoezack
alijoezack

you def nailed that one on the head. sometimes when people are not same way we see them as being selfish or they make us feel over needy. she is very independent and definatley needs her alone time and i am so the opposite dont know what to do in my alone time. but am getting better with it. she is an officer and has so much responsibility it is very overwhelming for her and im trying not to add to it. breathing so much better today. it is what it is. thanks again. have good day.
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