Is there anything more painful than learning that  the love you have searched for all your life is standing in front of you...all he needs to do is reach out...take it..he wants it, needs it, longs for it...but is so afraid...fears so intensely...that his fears win and he turns away. Afraid of being vulnerable. Afraid that the one who would never hurt him will hurt him? How would you ever know why you were born..your reason for living... if you were always too afraid to love?

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Wow, I so feel you on this one. It\'s like you have SO much love to give, and you want so badly to give it to him, but he won\'t take it. I just don\'t understand men.
solo60
solo60

Do you know your guy\'s background? There\'s a good chance that he got screwed up during his childhood, often by a mother who wasn\'t nurturing or who ignored his needs.It takes a lot to get the pieces of the puzzzle together to understand. It was something I needed to do so that I could get through this but it\'s not always wise to invest the time figuring them out. I was a psych major and for some reason I just had to try and figure him out. And rhonda, it\'s not all men but it seems like it\'s a lot more common than it used to be to run into this behavior.