Havent written a journal entry for a while.  The whole 4th thing was fine.  So as usual I worried for nothing.But now my husband is acting like a real jerk.  He went away for 3 days.  He didnt call the last day he was away.  He usually calls around 8:00 before the girls go to bed. I have had a terrible cold, so I fell asleep on the couch early.  I woke up at 11:00 pm and realized that he hadnt called.  So I was a little concerned.  He always calls when he's away.  So I call him.  We talked for a little while, and then I say that I was suprised that he didnt call.  He totally flips out, says that it was one  night what's the big deal.  I feel that it is a big deal, because we have kids, and I think he should call them every night when he is away.  Well, we ended up arguing for an hour on the phone.  He told me that he is trying to "climb the corporate ladder"  That I cant understand because I have a dead end job, have no ambition, etc.  Needless to say, I am very hurt.  I just dont understand where this came from.  We spoke the night before and everything was fine.  I guess  he had a bad day, but I dont think it is an excuse to say such hurtful things.  I hate when he gets like this.  I just think that maybe I am married to the wrong person.  Am I over reacting to this???  I really need some advice on how to handle this.  I really am thinking about asking him to leave for good.  I dont think he will without it getting ugly.  Oh, I forgot his other comment,  that I hold him back from what he wants.  I stayed at home for 6 years with our kids so that he could be succesful.  And now he has decieded that I am a lazy piece of crap because I dont have a job that is  "important enough"When do you know it is time to move on.  I have been with my husband for almost 20 years!!!  We started dating in high school.  The thoought of life w/o him is scary, but this is not the first time he has said something like this.  He says it with such hate in his voice.OOOHHH, I need help, please some advice!!!  I am dying here.