I have got a couple of messages to update the work situation.  I talked to my boss yesterday. He called me in first thing in the morning and said that co worker X seems to be spending a lot of time with co worker Y.  I didnt say anything, I realy dont know how much time they spend together.   He said that I needed to tell him what I knew.  I thought a lot about what I would say at this moment.  And this is what I decided on.  " I really dont know what is going on.  That is the truth.  I dont want to become involved in other peoples lives"  He looks at me and  smirks, then tells me that I signed an agreement when I was hired. And pulls out this piece of  paper I signed two years ago.   In a nutshell it says that audultry of any kind will not be tolerated.  It goes  on to say that it is the duty of all employees to be vigilant in enforcing this rule.  When called upon I agree to offer any and all assistance I can.DO YOU BELIEVE THIS????  I dont remember signing this.  But my signature was on it.  SO, then my boss says "Im sorry to put you in this position, but I (my boss) will lose my job if i dont get to the bottom of this .   SO, I get VERY NERVOUS (of course) and have a mini panic attack.  Face got all flushed and my heart was racing.  I went to the rest room and took a xanax. (First one in three weeks--I am so mad that I had to resort to this)I returned to his office and he told me that if I didnt say something, he would HAVE to report me as uncooperative!!!  CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS????  So I told him that I knew she talked to the guy in question, and that I saw them together in the parking lot.    He asked me about her dropping her kids off at daycare early, and I said that I couldnt comment on that, because even though my kids go to the same daycare, they are in different areas, and I really dont know what time she drops them off.  So he seemed satisfied with that and apologized fro having to twist my arm!!!I saw the guy today at lunch, and my stomach just fell.  I wonder if he knows that this is going to blow up in his face.  I know she doesnt know, she is too wrapped up in escaping her marriage that I dont think she would notice anything out of the ordinary....So that is it  in a nutshell.  I feel guilty for ratting them out, evern if it wasn t that earth shattering.  i cant loose my job over this.  I guess they have talked to everyone in the office now.  I wonder what her fate will be.  I cant worry about it she chose to cheat, and we do know that our company has a not tolerance policy to infidelity.....She should have known better.  All of this makes me more thankful for my life.  I love my husband, he loves me.  We have two great kids.  We are by no means perfect, but we have found a way to make it work, that we all are happy with.  I guess this happened for a reason, to make me realize that my life is not so bad.Thank you everyone for your comments, it really did help me.  Evern though my back was eventually pushed to the wall.  Oh, and I thing I should look for a new job, dont you??Hugs to you all!!!  

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You did the right thing. You can\'t sacrifice your job on someone else\'s behalf. Hopefully it will all come to a head soon and eventually blow over.
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Wow, I can\'t believe there was a document like that, and he used it against you like that. It seems like \"management\" could have found out the info they needed, without talking to the entire office. For example--just watching the two in question for a while--I\'m sure they would catch something sooner or later--but to drag everyone in the office through it--it seems unfair to all of you, for their screw up.
I\'m sorry that it also drove you to take a xanax- I know how frustrating that can be, when you\'ve been doing so well, but on a positive note, at least you realized that it was caused by that stressful incident--hopefully you have done your part and can move on. You are doing great lately--don\'t let them pull you down.
((hugs))
Lisa
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I\'m glad you said it! WOW!!! I\'ve never heard of an agreement like that! And your boss is awful. I think you did fine. I just can\'t get over it! Maybe a union job next time!
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HI hun,i just can\'t believe that they had you sign something like that,i do believe you! The nerve of this man,why not confront the ones he thinks is doing it,not the ones who are trying to work and do a good job.Why did he not go and make sure himseft,instead of making you and others feel so bad.I,m just gald it is over for you,and it put you inro a panic attack,bless your heart.It pays to read everything you sign.I learn this,because my husband owns his own business.I think you did just fine hun.my prayers are with you,love SHEA.....................
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Wow! That\'s incredible. I\'ve never heard of a company forcing such a procedure! What type of business is it? I\'m sorry you had to resort to a xanax, I know how much it can make you feel weak to do so, but I don\'t think you can feel weak in any way due to the extremity of the situation!
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Holy cow! Why do jobs cause so much DRAMA?!? Hang in there! :)