Hello everyone. I have had a busy week. There has been a lot going on at home and at work. We have a situation in my office that is making me very uncomfortable. Two of my co-workers are having affairs,not with each other but with other people at work. It is very uncomfortable for all of us because both of them are married and have young kids. I have been told that tomorrow I will be called into my bosses office to tell what I kow about the situations!!! Do I have to tell what I know??? I really dont know that much (thankfully) but I have heard and seen some things that I wish I would not have. So I am stressing about tomorrow. I did have my annual review the other day, and that was really good. So I guess maybe all of this will be forgotten by next years review????!!!!I have had a lot of anger the last day or so, this is unusual for me. I dont know what is wrong really, this started before the whole work thing. It's really hot tonight, and I just feel really cranky. I am annoyed at my husband right now. My girls are playing softball right now, and he just has no competitiveness in him. He keeps telling the girls that it doesnt matter what they do when they play. I dont think we should yell at them when they make mistakes or anything like that, but I think we should encourage them to be the best that they can be. Not just telling them that it's not important. I think he is breeding mediocraty in them, and it makes me mad. He should be guiding them, and not telling them that they dont have to basically try in a game!!!Anyway, this is part of my frustration, the other part is that I can not seem to get my house back into decent shape. I have been doing laundry every evening this week and still have a ton to do!!!! I am so sick of never being caught up.These are the kinds of little things that just make me mad, and I cant seem to get rid of the anger right now.....I should go for a walk to get rid of my frustrations but it is so hot out that I just dont feel like it!!!Well, tomorrow will be a better day, I hope!!! I am going to post my question about whether I have to tell my boss what I know on the discussion board tonigt. If anyone reads this tonight message me and let me know what I should do, I really dont want to be in the middle of others personal lives.Have a great night all
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Don\'t lie to your boss, tell what you\'ve heard and make it clear you\'d like what you say to be confidential. As far as getting caught up with laundry, we\'re both in the same boat!!!! Good Luck 2morrow, I\'llk be thinking of you!!xoxo
Is your company very big? do you know the people in question very well? how did you get word that you would be called in to discuss it? I agree with \"moonstar\"--I would tell the truth--maybe not elaborate all the details.. but say you have heard that they are having affair, if that is what you are asked about--what I mean is, that i guess I would offer it up, until asked. Sort of a crappy spot to put everyone into. Talk about a rock & a hard place.
As for the anger... I go through those times too, especially when stress is higher & with PMS (which seems that it has become much worse in past year or so) I\'m having a bit of it myself lately--my DH is working around the clock these days and we were going to work on keeping things less stressful for me, for a while, and it seems whenever we say that--things go the other way. I think its a good sign that you recognize that you are letting little things upset you & exercise is some of the best medicine for stress--your headed in the right direction.
Hang in there & good luck tomorrow--keep us posted!
(((hugs)))
lisa
Hi! My initial reaction is very strong, although I don\'t know if it\'s \"right\"...don\'t say anything! Or, say as little as possible...you didn\'t notice! At least remember that only first hand info counts. I think it\'s best to stay a million miles away from situations like this. Good luck!!! It\'s hot here too and I\'m also cranky!
Lisa,
My company is quite large it employs over 1200 people. I know one girl pretty well.. We actually share some job duties so I have interaction everyday. I have witnessed a kiss int the parking lot, and also know that she drops the kids off at the company daycare 1 1/2 hours before she comes to work. She told me about a month ago that she wanted to \"do\" the guy in question!!!! She has said that she is not sexually attracted to her husband and was looking for someone to \"hook up\" with. This was a couple of weeks ago. Our HR department called her and said that they heard the rumor of the affair, she laughed and said \"They are just jealous!!!\"
So like I said I have seen and heard things that I ddint want to see or hear, and maybe that arent proof, but they certainly dont look good. Thats why I really dont want to have to answer any questions, because I do beleive that something is going on. And our company has a zero tolerance policy for this kind of behavoir./
That is a real tough call on your part. I would try to say as little as possible if anything at all. I wouldn\'t lie, but I also wouldn\'t offer up any information. Do your co workers who are engaging in the affair know that people are being called in for questions about it? Good luck with this sticky situation,
I don\'t think it\'s right that your boss should ask you any questions regarding \'non-work\' issues. That\'s not professional. If I was in your position, and asked by my boss, I would simply reply that it\'s none of my business and I would rather not discuss it. Good luck!
Hi, I read your journal. Do not say anything. This is an H.R. issue. You should not let this affect you or your work. Hope it went well. Smiles!
HI hun,I know all this is tough on you.I don\'t think the boss should drag you into this,he should ask the people who is doing this.It is a H.R. issue! I hope all went well! My prayers are with you my friend.Love,SHEA.............................