DRAMA
As Mom who has lost a child and being 5 1/2 years I have had more Drama than I want or need. I don't know about the rest of you, but any little upset and my body feels so tired and so worn out...so Drama is really not on my menu. You would think a Nurse at least even so more a Hospice Nurse who loves to tell about how she comforts others during this time as she works with them, how she goes to the memorials. How said she feels so sad for the mothers. Well, through the years, I have known what a selfish, greasy person she is. She has three goals. Not sure which is more important money or being seen and now she has decided she is going to try and destroy me and my marriage. This started after our last visit. We didn't know until August that there any problems until she refused her dad's call on her Birthday. He go really depressed, but finally she talked to him I guess about 6 weeks later...after that it seemed okay untilChristmas came and when he talked to us about coming for a visit, he was told he could come but not me...gezz we been married 19 years and have never missed Christmas with them. I think she Text him a Thank youText. Next was we wanted to go see the grandson watch LaCross. Once again it was okay for him not me..he has bee devastated not thinking his sweet daughter or son would be so hateful ..I asked him if he was going. He said not if I was not welcome. Well if you read my last post being a joke for instead of us throwing a money that they just come by or however and help pay for our 20th Cruise. The joke about this concerns someone else in my family not hers, but we thought for one thing how rude it was to ask for money. Well, my Step-Daughter oh did she go with that post. Calling my husband starting at 4 in the morning sending a text about what Sandi had done. I guess you could say it is sad SHE IS if it didn't seem sick. Where has the hate come from, I have no ideal but as I said at first, emotional issues wear out my body. I know she Wants a good yelling fight but she is not getting it...what a sad family it is. I was thinking of deleting my FB but decided I will not let her control me....
sad that people can be so angry. On by the way we live in Indiana, she lives in VA 9 hours away. They do not visit us..we do all the driving. We see them about 10 days a year. Out of respect you would think 10 days out of 365 she could tolerate me. And what has caused the angry I don' t know. I will not let her upset me no matter but I really feel it is sad. Oh well, if your like me I don't need the DRAMA!!!!!
sad that people can be so angry. On by the way we live in Indiana, she lives in VA 9 hours away. They do not visit us..we do all the driving. We see them about 10 days a year. Out of respect you would think 10 days out of 365 she could tolerate me. And what has caused the angry I don' t know. I will not let her upset me no matter but I really feel it is sad. Oh well, if your like me I don't need the DRAMA!!!!!
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I have a similar siitutaion with my step-daughter. After my Justin passed away she seemed okay with me, but 7 months later my husband and I separated for a little while. My mom passed away and husband and I reconciled. She hated that and we have been married for 20 years. We raised a second family including her and she gave me a run for my money, let me tell you! What a night mare. I knew some how not to be a mom to her, not to get to close, and I was right, my intuition. I now just refuse to let her bother me at all. My love was so great for my son\'s and they really were good boy\'s with big hearts and told me that they loved me every day, she never did. Just sarcastic, had a baby at 16 and a Miss. useful information type of a person. I have tried many, many times to get along with her. I have gone out of my way and bent over backwards for her two son\'s on birthdays and ect. it does not matter. I believe she has a lot of emotional problems due to her own mother not bothering with her. Her mother was a bad person into drugs and drink, no one ever knew where she was accept when she was in jail. Some how I think she takes it out on me, I really don\'t know, but I really do not let her bother me any more. If my husband goes to see the grand children, he goes, that\'s that. She is only really hurting her own dad in the long run. I have learned to live with out her just fine but I know her behavior bothers my husband. Wish I could fix this, but some times certain things are better left alone. Good luck to you... XOX, Debbie
Dear Sandi, I am so sorry that you have to put up with her. Maybe you could just block her on FB so she can\'t see what you post? Hugs, Paula
How sad that she would go to such lengths to hurt her father. She must be a very sad person.
You and your husband have each other. If she is trying to break up your marriage, i fear she will be the loser. I feel so sad for both your husband. He should not have to choose.
Take care of yourself.
Tight hugs, Marlene
Marlene I agree after all they have done to me I should be the one acting like her but I am not and wouldn\'t want to be. I can\'t believe she made her dad make a choice..
Paula, we have somehow she feta to it. Shouldn\'t. Matter it\'s our FB. If she hates me so much why does she even read it
You are right, stay away from the drama. How do people think this is the right way to live causing such pain. Family causes such heartache when it is supposed to be the place of solace. I wish you some peace. Hugs, Kathy
You described my reaction to the slightest bit of drama very well. I have no coping skills or tolerance since Jason died and simply (although it hurts) have to walk away or let it go because I simply am not able to deal with it.
However, even prior to Jason\'s death, I would not tolerate an adult child attempts at dictating how a parent chooses to live their life or putting conditions on if they are welcome at an event or not. The complete lack of respect ain\'t goin\' cut it honey and she needs a good strong talking to, preferably from her father. She doesn\'t need to like you or be your best friend but she sure as hell needs to respect her father. If that\'s not possible, then the lesson she has set up for herself to learn is how wrong she will be when her dad (and you) are no longer around.
Sorry someone else\'s stupidity has put you in this hurtful position...
(hugs) Merrilee
I am so sorry about all the unnecessary drama in your life, my dear friend. Yes, drama also affects my body in a very negative way. That is why I am shaking quite severely now, and ordinary things like writing, crocheting and eating is becoming increasingly difficult for me. You are such a beautiful person, you definitely do not need this kind of abuse in your life!! I wish I had some good advice for you, but I don\'t. So I\'m sending you warm, gentle hugs!! xxx
So sorry you are going through all of this! If find that if drama happening, I let it happen elsewhere. I can\'t change the way other people see things or how they feel. I can only tell my truth. If I don\'t do that, I think myself back into illness. I hope this helps, if not, file it in the trash! lol Love ya!
Thanks for all the great advise