MOM
I went to visit the nursing home yesterday morning around 9...It is probably a bit farther about 25 minute from me but for my sister who has no car it is about 45 minutes...I live in In, she lives in Ky...but anyway..the nursing home was a bit better than the one she was in originally where she wants to go back too..
So I still had turmoil of what to do...I talked to the Administor and she said I would just need a fax from her doctor...on the way home I realized her doctor is closed on Fridays. So called them back..told them and they said maybe he would come in and send the orders..I said I doubted it as when I called for medicine before he never called it in.
I came home talked to my husband about it..then I bravely appoached mom on the subject...She wanted to go see it so we went..and as we walked in the door they had received the fax from the doctor....
As it turned out....mom ate lunch there...got her room...we left she took a nap, we came home got some of her things and she is there...
I have not signed the paper as yet...but we go back today and sign everything..What was really funny was I was giving the nurse her medicines and I told her to go on to the sitting area where my husband was...I got finished with the nurse and was almost to where they were...
As fast as mom could go...she headed into a room full of of people with popcorn and they were going to do an activity not even turning to say bye...she seemed excited..
So we will go see her today and see how the night went...see how she is feeling today...and if it seems okay....will be signing her in...
I agree with comments on my last journal...it is true that since mom has been here, I had not taken care of my own needs...We have completely devoted our time to her..but she is my mom..and my husband has helped so much..I would have never been able to do it alone..
Of course mom's looking at this as a step to get back to the other nursing home which is suppose to be...but one thing I really liked about this place is the TV's were not blaring in each room...(mom does not like TV)...and it is true most of her time will be spent inside the nursing home, so which one she is at as long as they keep her busy with things it should not matter...
So Day 2 to see how it went...Hoping she enjoyed it...thanks for all the comments..and support...and advise...
Sandi
So I still had turmoil of what to do...I talked to the Administor and she said I would just need a fax from her doctor...on the way home I realized her doctor is closed on Fridays. So called them back..told them and they said maybe he would come in and send the orders..I said I doubted it as when I called for medicine before he never called it in.
I came home talked to my husband about it..then I bravely appoached mom on the subject...She wanted to go see it so we went..and as we walked in the door they had received the fax from the doctor....
As it turned out....mom ate lunch there...got her room...we left she took a nap, we came home got some of her things and she is there...
I have not signed the paper as yet...but we go back today and sign everything..What was really funny was I was giving the nurse her medicines and I told her to go on to the sitting area where my husband was...I got finished with the nurse and was almost to where they were...
As fast as mom could go...she headed into a room full of of people with popcorn and they were going to do an activity not even turning to say bye...she seemed excited..
So we will go see her today and see how the night went...see how she is feeling today...and if it seems okay....will be signing her in...
I agree with comments on my last journal...it is true that since mom has been here, I had not taken care of my own needs...We have completely devoted our time to her..but she is my mom..and my husband has helped so much..I would have never been able to do it alone..
Of course mom's looking at this as a step to get back to the other nursing home which is suppose to be...but one thing I really liked about this place is the TV's were not blaring in each room...(mom does not like TV)...and it is true most of her time will be spent inside the nursing home, so which one she is at as long as they keep her busy with things it should not matter...
So Day 2 to see how it went...Hoping she enjoyed it...thanks for all the comments..and support...and advise...
Sandi
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Hope Mom had a good night! \"You done Good\" Sandi, Susan
Good ones are hard to find but they are out there. I hope she had a good night.
So glad for you. She sounds happy. Hugs, Roselle
GOOD LUCK!!!!
Sandi, hoping it will feel like home to your mom and that you can have as peaceful a heart as possible. You have taken the best care of her possible and she feels the love of that I am certain.
Now, time to take care of yourself however that may look and be for you.
Hope the signing goes well and that you can drive away knowing she will be well cared for.
Hugs, Joanie
Hoping things continue to work themselves out seamlessly and that the greatest good for all is achieved! This is sounding good! hugs.....
Sounds like all has worked out...very glad for you and your husband....time to exhale and relax a bit!
Hugs, Rebecca
I wish for you some peace. A lot of us have to deal with this. I feel so guilty because my Mom had been a nursing home and I brought her home and she fell and I felt so guilty about bringing her home. I feel guilty about my son and my Mom. I do hope your Mom is happy but I want you to take care of yourself.
Nell
It sounds encouraging, Sandi....I\'m so happy for you. You truly deserve a break and peace....My mother in law had Alzheimer\'s so I know what you are going through...It\'s a horrible disease!! Love, Connie
I am so pleased! It sounds like it is a far better home for your mom. She will forget about the other place as she settles in to her new digs. I hope the staff have talked to you about her likes, dislikes, favorite activities etc. They can then help her feel more at home. Does the home let you bring in things of her own that are familiar to her such a a piece of furniture, knick knacks (unbreakable and not expensive)? Photos are always good - they help the staff, especially if it is a photo of her and the family when they were younger. I always found them to be good conversation starters.
I hope all is going well.
Hugs, Marlene
I beleve it will work out.. I really started to laugh, It reminded me of years ago when Jenn was about 3 she had a bad viral infection and the Dr. put her in the hospital for dehydration and to keep kate (who was only a few weeks old) from getting sick.. anyway, the first few days she was in isolatioin but when she got better she was alowed to go down to the playroom with the other kids... (back in those days Moms could not stay all night).. I came toget her the day we were discharged and she told me to come back later she was having fun ...
Hugs to you, and starting paying attention to what YOU need.
MaryLou
HEY! HOORAY! Things are beginning to work out for you and your mom. I surely hope she continues to be happy in her new home, and that you will be able to do some overdue taking care of yourself now! Hugs to both of you. Margery Ann
I hope she had a good night. It will be an adjustment for all of you. Take care. Love, Dawn
I hope your mom continues to do well there. Love & hugs, Linda