My uncle on my dads side died today. For those of you who don't know, I am not very close to my dad, let along his family. I did like him though. I do feel bad, but I am not as upset as I was when my uncle on my moms side died. I know I was no where near as close to him as I am my family on my moms side. My dad was with another lady, living w/ her, when he asked my mom out. They dated for a while and my mom got pregnant. When she was about 4 months pregnant with me she found out. She broke up with him and told him he could still see me when I was born. He did come around at first, but it seemed the older I got the less I saw him. I grew to really dispise him. When I got pregnant with my first son I wasn't even talking to him. When I was at the end of my pregnancy we made up. And as with me, he came around a lot to see my son, at first. He eventually quit coming around all together. He is old and sick now, in and out of the hospital a lot. I go see him once in a while, and sometimes he calls. I never really had a problem with his family, other than the fact that they believed his lies about my mom. Anyway, I feel bad because I don't feel worse. You know?
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Emotions can really play havoc with your mind and heart. If the two of you have made up, that\'s cool. But the reality is now you are a grown woman with a husband who loves you and children of your own. You can\'t change the past so your main focus is your family. You can\'t change your dad or what he does. If you have forgiven him and love him, let him know. Don\'t push it. The next move is his and remember, it is his decision. As for me, I have a daughter in town and a son in Georgia. Every communication I have with them I tell them I love them and how proud I am of their accomplishments. I honestly believe it has given them strength and purpose. Remember, this is just an opinion from what I have learned in my life. Just advice, experience. Take it or leave it. Either way, I have faith in you and you will do well. How\'s the job? Take care my friend and God bless, James
i knw what ya mean grl
im not close at all with my mom or her side of the fam just my pops
dnt feel bad cause u dnt feel worse bout it just cause they are ure fam dsnt mean u r close to em and yeah it hurts but if u arent close to em then i dnt think u should feel bad ya knw
unfortunatly peeps pass away everyday and i dnt knw any of em ya knw but i still feel bad bout their death but cause i didnt knw em it dsnt hurt like it would if it were one of my kids or you guys or JR ya knw
so dnt feel bad hun and i am sorry for the loss
ure in our thoughts and prayers :)