I need some advice. My ex added me to his myspace friends list and I added him to mine. I sent him a comment saying: People will forget what you say and do, but will remember how you made them feel. I didn't think until after I sent it that maybe it's not the kind of thing a married women should send her ex. I kind of feel guilty about it. It's something I wouldn't tell Roger that I sent to him, he would flip. So does that mean it's cheating? It's not like it's anyone I will ever see or hang out with. We dated when I was 14. I am 23 now, and married with children. I don't have feelings for him. I was just remembering the past. Is that wrong?
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It isn\'t something to feel guilty about and it isn\'t cheating. You\'re statement could be taken different ways. Remembering how he made you feel can be interpreted as he hurt you some way or he made you feel good. It\'s okay to remember the past just as long as you don\'t get obsessed with it. Roger should be secure in your relationship enough that he should not feel threatened by you talking to your ex. Just make sure that your ex doesn\'t become inappropriate with you.
It isnt wrong to remember the past, but it is dangerous to think on it for too long. U dont want to get n the habit of reliving the past in ur head. This can only bring up old feelings & that may lead 2 mental & emotional adultry. U can remain friends but its prob better to keep things lite & respectful to ur marriage.