Why is it that some people feel that they have to use other people, or a group to hurt or shame you, if they feel that they've been slighted in some way?  Like, somehow it's not enough to take you on one-on-one....they need to call others in to prove that you're wrong and they're right!...like a sibling telling a parent, "look what she did!!" , or a student going up to the teacher and saying, "hey he cheated off my paper!!" ....waaaaaa waaaaa big baby!!....such a pathetic way of being....i've come across this before in my past....when i, admittedly did something stupid, and rather than the person just letting me know about it and working it out, this group dynamic comes in and the person attempts to get a consensus or something together to mess with me, like "see?? I'm right and look here everyone else thinks so too!!"----like ok, so you had to do that cuz you were too weak to face me and work it out so you had to bring others in to help you make your point???.... now I admit I do sometimes push the envelope a bit far, and perhaps looking back my actions or words take things to the limit....but shit thats my business! As long as I don't hurt anyone else! And if i say something it's one-on-one!..... hmmm I just figured it out...you know what it is?  A lot of the times when i've been in these situations it's because i'm dealing with pretty messed up people you know?  Like, when I decided to quit this one job and I wasn't gonna give any notice and this co-worker I told went and told the boss on me and the next day I got fired!  Well the guy I told was nuts to begin with I shouldn't have shared that with him....and the other cases are pretty similar I suppose...if you are dealing with sick, messed up souls to begin with and you are too real with them they freak out!!  They can't deal with my openness or honesty or whatever and so they have to go and get others to cope with it cuz their sick minds can't deal with it, or fathom how i'm being, or what I'm saying and it freaks them out or something, so they have to get others involved cuz they can't handle me one-on-one.  The problem is I need help, and sometimes I have to share it with people who, unfortunately are messed up themselves!!  Anyway, the group, or whatever it is, sets the rules and the pawns seem to follow, sacrificing each other sometimes in the process...I gotta stay away from the pawns, it's too easy to get hurt on the front lines...I need to stay back with those pieces, or people, in this case, who have more flexibility and can move in multiple directions, have more sophistication or whatever it is to play the game....i've been on the front row...playing small...although I FEEL like a pawn (and maybe am one), and my circumstances feel pretty bleak I still gotta get back to the back row, and stick to the winners whether I belong there or not!!These Unique Songs Get Played One Right After Each Other On The CD, Like They Should Be:Listen to "Ends" first:http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=aKFMo8Cv81YThen to "What It's Like" next:http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=4z9f9Eybv4I