Its a relief to get the pressure of "curing" robert. I am so glad i made the choices i made in asking him to move out again. He only called me once yesterday and had not called today. Yes, i wonder where he is and how he is but i am not willing to take care of him anymore. I want to use my energy for my family and re-energying myself for my future. I also told my mom i cannot help her financially and that felt good too. For once I feel at peace and in balance. I will continue on my research of 18th century women writers and caring for my grandchildren working on me and being a good role model. It feels great to be 11 months violence free!!!!!!! I have not been hit or abused by robert and i called it quit, wow, we can make it out. Not quite whole, but still standing.