sober, sober, sober. not all that its cracked up to be. but i am determined to stay that way. i was sober for almost 2 years so i now i can do it again. yesterday was especially difficult in that i was treated as if i were being "punished" for decisions i made. my focus it to be in this relationship "violent free" including verbal, emotional and mentally violent free. i am studying a course on empowering women that choose to stay with their intimate violent partner. in order for it to work, we must both be on the same page. so my first step is to study, pray, stay sober and be ready to relapse. (this is part of the process) by relapse i don't mean being hit again. that is an automatic out. i am determined to end the violence with education, check and balance, accountability and a plan. alo of talking, understanding and forgiveness.