TRAUMATIC BOND BRAKING: What made the bond so strong? (1) nice/mean affect (2) i was abused as child (3) returning surely is a death trap.
SOME OF THE REASONS I FINALLY FOUND MY WAY OUT OF THE WATERY CAVE::::: Continued drinking & using, threats to me and my children, abandonment, beatings, withholding money & resources, isolation. Ultimately, when he beat-up another person, someone he worked with, i knew i had to get out.
SOME OF THE REASONS I CONTINUED TO GO BACK::::
Fear of not returning would result in a violent punishment, financial, shelter, affection, stability.
He used to tell me he knew i'd be back, because that the way i liked to be treated.
SOME OF THE REASONS I FINALLY FOUND MY WAY OUT OF THE WATERY CAVE::::: Continued drinking & using, threats to me and my children, abandonment, beatings, withholding money & resources, isolation. Ultimately, when he beat-up another person, someone he worked with, i knew i had to get out.
SOME OF THE REASONS I CONTINUED TO GO BACK::::
Fear of not returning would result in a violent punishment, financial, shelter, affection, stability.
He used to tell me he knew i'd be back, because that the way i liked to be treated.
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You know what hun get all these toxic people out of your life and don\'t give them power and control over you and your life,cut the ties if you are able to I know easier said then done and how I know it because I have had that very thing said to me.Hugs ,know I am here for you and care,Kim
So Sorry for u. But he is the real loser.. He has no control and that is what he feeds on. I have three boys and I\'m teaching them to respect freedom and to treat women nice. I don\'t want them to end up like your ex Maybe someday everyone will be on the same page. Enjoy your life. May god bless you with happiness, joy, and love for the rest of your life. your friend Don